absolutely be praying for you! I am so very sorry for your loss. I wish that there was something that I could say to make it better. Do you have any other family close by for support? I am so so sorry for you.

...but prayer works.....I will...I am.
mg

I ll be praying for you
Is terrible what you going thru right now. Ask God for help he is always there for us.If there is any other way I can help you let me know.God bless you

Sandy,

I am sooooo sorry that this happened to you. My Deepest Condolences to you and your family. Please know I will add you to my thoughts and prayers. *HUGZ* Again, I am so sorry that this happened.

Brenda

Oh Sandy, my heart is breaking for you. Your post brought me to tears...I am so so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you to receive God's strength, grace and provision. Do you have a supportive family that are with you during this devastating loss? You have definitely found a wonderful support system here. There are many loving, caring people on this forum that can provide you with help, support and information.

Try to take good care of yourself and I will be praying for you...

Blessings,

Lisa C

Sandy,
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I can't imagine your grief and pain you are going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Yes, I do luckily have my oldest sister visiting this weekend. Her home is on Kentucky Lake outside of Paris, TN and she is going to stay with me for the week, plus my Mother-in-Law, Robert's Mom, is here for me and I have neighbors that are absolute jewels offering to help on both sides.

Between them and a few good friends I honestly don't know if I'd be able to make it. We had just celebrated our 26 anniversary, first marriage for both of us. This wasn't supposed to happen, but it did. It was absolutely the worst the way that I found him.

So again, please good people,remember to love the ones you have cause it can all be gone in a flash. And that's why I need you all to surround me with hope & prayer, cause that's all I got right now and I've heard some pretty awesome stories about the power of prayer.

Thanks so much, Sandy

Oh Sandi ! My Most Heartfelt & My Deepest Condolences to you and your family

I don't know if you know this, but really watch your pain levels right now. Stress makes pain worse. Don't be "brave" or "strong". If you need extra help right now be sure to be kind to yourself.

My thoughts & prayers will remain with you

To Sandy

My thoughts are with you through this dreadful
time in your life. I am so sorry for your loss,

Val

I won't because I cannot pick out one reply that asked me for what I needed over another because they all hit it on the head. The Dear Lord had some reason for this, though right now it's hard to figure what, but you've all heard the story about closing of one door to open another.

I don't even visit the other forums, just you guys, that's how much I care for you.

<> to you all, Sandy

May God's angels be there for you to lift you up during this time of heartbreak -- no words to comfort you through this great loss but will be praying for God to sustain you.

So sorry for your loss,

Judy

Sandy,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine the pain and sorrow you're feeling. I'm sure you're in shock since it was so unexpected. I'm glad that your daughter is there for you and that you have so many wonderful people to comfort you. Please know that I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts. God Bless

Debbie

Howdy Sandy - *HUGZ*

It is now the next day. Is your family around you for support now? I thought of you first thing when I woke this morning. I hope they are there for you. I am keeping you with me in my heart!!! for you!!

Brenda

Thinking/praying for you today...

I know there is nothing I can say or do that will help ease your pain or help fill your loss.
Please know that everyone here on SH will be surrounding you in spirit every day. Our prayers and love will always be with you.
Your post brought tears to our eyes. We feel your pain and loss.

Patsy W

So sorry for your very sad loss
My prayers are with you, for comfort and strength and for God to send people to show His love for you.

Hi Sandy,

Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking and praying for you today. Hope you are surrounded by family and friends for support. Take good care of yourself.

Lisa C

Lisac, yes, my sister and I are going to her daughter's home (my niece) for Thanksgiving dinner today. Her husband is going to be doing the cooking, so we all have our fingers crossed! It will be nice to see my niece's children (two boys and a girl) as it has been a while since I saw them.

And Brenda you are absolutely right about telling the positive stories that come to mind. Robert was an auto mechanic and he would do anything he could to help someone in need. If they did not have much money he would just tell them to pay for the parts & he would do the labor for free. That's just the way he was. He never tried to cheat or overcharge someone regardless of their income. The man LOVED to watch movies. This would be the day that I was in the kitchen cooking (loved it) and he would watch movies & nap till dinner was ready. That just always reminded me of the old days at home when I was a kid waiting for mom to fix the turkey & trimmings.

Well it is pretty late (early?) and I need to get back to bed. I wish you all a happy day with family & friends on this holiday weather you get to spend the day with them or just maybe speak on the phone with them.

Best of wishes to all, thank you,
Sandy

You remain in my thoughts & prayers

Footprints in the Sand

One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord
Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky
In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand
Sometimes there were two sets of footprints, other times there was only one set of footprints
This bothered me because I noticed that during the low periods of my life, when I was suffering from anguish, sorrow or defeat, I could only see one set of footprints. So I said to the Lord "You promised me Lord, that if I followed you, you would walk with me always. But I have noticed that during the mosts trying periods of my life, there have only been one set of footprints in the sand. Why, when I needed you most, have you not been there for me?" The Lord replied "The times when you have seen only one set of footprints in the sand, is when I carried you.
Mary Stevenson

Sandy, you are not alone
God bless you

Sandy,

I *know* today is going to be stressful for it will be without Robert. Please keep him in your heart, and he will be with you. Today is one of those days that we remind ourselves and our loved ones of what we are grateful for - yours? You are with your loved ones, you had (it sounds like to me) wonderful years with your hubby. Rest, let yourself enjoy this day. *HUG* to you for your strength and feelings. Thinking of you Sandy.

Brenda

stopping in to see how you are doing

I know that your court date was this week and I am hoping that you are doing OK. Please do post when you are able.

It has been one terribly long, stressful and painful two weeks. Sorry I haven't gotten back to you all sooner to keep you all filled in. It's just been amazing how much "stuff" that needs to be attended to. And then add my DUI (from exhaustion, but unfortunately my pain meds will show up in the blood test along with the Ambien.) You have all been so kind asking about me and how things are going. My sister had to go back to her home up in Paris, TN, but I have my mother-in-law and a pair of extremely kind neighbors that will help me and have already helped me out so much already.

I've been cleaning out his closet and personal stuff (what a CHORE!) and also not sure about his personal bills. He was going through a bankruptcy when he suddenly passed away. The lawyer he was dealing with won't be back in til this week. So I don't know what to do about that stuff til I talk to him Monday (tomorrow).

I also have a rather jealous dog that doesn't like me on the computer, so I have to keep stopping and petting her every little bit! I've got 2 dogs and I wish there was some way to tell them what has happened, but there is not. One of them was more attached to Robert and it is so sad to think of her waiting for him. But she has become more attached to me now and she hangs around me and sleeps with me instead of the front room waiting for him. So I think she is becoming used to the new situation.

Jellyhall, thanks for the "Footprints" poem. I've heard it before and it is quite fitting that you recited it for me.

My court date is reset for the 15th, which is a week from this Tuesday. Will have to stay an extra night in jail to fulfill my 48 hours, since I only stayed 24 hours when they picked me up. I sure hope I have a sympathetic judge that takes my back disability and husband passing away into consideration. I would be so happy if I could get a partial drivers license to be able to go to the doctor & pharmacy at least. I've got my fingers crossed.

Well I guess I'll sign off for now. Again, thank you all so very much for the e-support, as I've said before this is a great forum with many wonderfully caring people.

Take care and don't forget to keep me in your prayers!
Sandy

It was great to hear from you again, but I understand completely that you have had lots going on.
It's good to hear that you have your Mother-in-law and some neighbours to help you.
Once the court case is over, you will know what the outcome will be, then you can start to deal with it. Hopefully you will have a sympathetic judge.

Lots of people lifting you up in prayer.
Take care

Sandy,

It is great seeing you back with us! Even better to see you still have support around you in these trying times! You know we are here for you via in this forum or the PM side of the house. Prayers are continuing your way and the way of your family. *HUG* Each time we PM, or you post in here, I am of the firm belief that you are a very strong woman, maybe stronger than you yourself realize. You already know this, we are ALL here for you!!! Again, sorry you are going through all this.

Best regards as always,

Brenda

Yeah, I might be a little while getting back to you all, but I'll get there! Brenda thank you for the uplifting notes of strength. I feel sometimes like I am just helpless, then my neighbor goes off an said to me the other day, "Sandy, how did you even know where to start with all of this?" And you know what…I don't know! It just started happening. I would be so much better off mentally if not for that DUI charge. But I'll go to my grave believing that it was due to worry, exhaustion and taking Ambien too late, and not my pain medicine. I've been taking that for around six years now and have not had a problem before. But unfortunately it will show up in my blood test as well.

Keep the prayers coming folks! Sandy

I am sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts.

I have been MIA myself - BUT have not forgotten about you in my thoughts & prayers

I agree put the 15th to the back burning for a few days and just do what must be done for now - mainly taking care of yourself

Hi all!

Just wanted to check in and hope everyone was doing alright today. I'm making it. My court date is this Tuesday and I've got a thousand butterflies in my stomach. I want to get it done and over with but I am dreading it so bad.

My brother-in-law came down yesterday for a one day visit and to pick up a few things he wanted. He left this morning. It was nice to see him, we went out to Shoney's and had dinner last night.

It just does not seem like Christmas is almost here does it? Of course I am not going to decorate or do anything this year because of the circumstances. But still, it does not even seem like Thanksgiving has passed.

Well please continue to keep me in your prayers til this is over with, I truly appreciate it.
Best of wishes, Sandy

That is so true. I feel like the older I get the faster time passes.

You are in my thoughts.

How did you make out with your court date on Tuesday? I haven't been on here in about 2wks so I've been out of the loop but was thinking of you today. I pray you are doing well. Hang in there.

Hi I just read your post there.Im so very very sorry for your loss, you will definetly be in my prayers, god will help you,he never abandons us.

Thinking and praying for you. Hope things are settling down and that you can feel God's presence and peace.

but I hope the fact she has not given an update (and I am not trying to say that she HAS to, nor does she OWE us anything!) is NOT because she is in jail!

SANDY - EVERYTHINGHURTS - WHERE ARE YOU? HOW ARE YOU?

I have been in contact with her and she told me that her lawyer got this postponed until February. She has to get a letter from her doc stating that she can't work so she will not get community service. Sorry I did not know that she did not post that here. I think that she is OK all things considered.

Thanks for the update!

Hello all, and a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you and your families.

Jeauxbert, thank you for your concern. As J.J. Grey mentioned, my courtdate has been postponed til Feb. 2. My lawyer wanted me to get a letter from one of my doctors stating that I cannot work any more, mainly so that I would not get any community service added to my sentence because of my many back problems, I just cannot do physical work or sitting down work (puts all the pressure on my lower back). I'm still quite scared because I do not know what to expect at the hearing. I know I will most likely have to serve another 24 hours in jail as the normal sentence is 48 hours. I'm just putting my faith in my lawyer and the Good Lord Above. Just keep this in mind to any of you that are taking Ambien for sleeping problems. Make sure you give yourself the full 8 hours of rest because I know that is what did me in. When I started out driving I was just fine, no problems whatsoever. Then about the time I got to Jackson I got so very sleepy, not loopy or druggy, but sleepy. It was because I took the Ambien too late in the morning and did not let it wear off properly. So please people, if you are on this stuff, bear that in mind.

Jellyhall, thank you for the kind thoughts, I need all I can get. This is just like one big snowball rolling down a hill getting larger and larger. It's time for it to start melting and getting smaller.

Well, I wish all of you kind people a safe and happy holiday. I truly wish you all the best, Sandy

It is so good to hear from you.

The snowball will reach the bottom of the hill and stop. Then the sun will come out and slowly melt it.

Until then, we'll be praying for you.

God's blessing on you this Christmas.

I made it through Christmas, even though it was a bit rough. But I'm glad it is over. I just want my life to get back to normal and get over all this not knowing stuff. Hope Santa was good to all of you and you all have a good new year.
All my best, Sandy