another bad night was very up set i don't know what to do let me tell you a little bit it all started 6 weeks ago i was taken to kings hospital cause i couldn't breathe i had lots of water on my lungs and my body had loads of water they took 20 lites from me then they told me that i may need stents put in they checked and told me that they couldn't do them and that i will need a triple bypass from day one of going there i didn't like be away from my husband we have been together for 37 years never a day a part we both cried every day and when they told me that i will have to have this bypass or i would die i know my husband could not cope on the day they done this i made out to be brave for my husband i was not brave at all the op took 8 hours i don't remember any of it i lost 3 days when i was in recovery they told my husband that he could talk to me but i would not reply so he held my hand and started to talk to me he told me that i tried to pull the tube out three times which up set him very much he said that he didn't like me looking like that so he had to go home but now he cant get this out of his head and he see this every day and night he cries about this all the time and i don't know our to help him it where we had been apart for for all them days and what happened in the recovery room can anyone help with this on what we can do to get past this