My husband is a chronic back pain sufferer. He has had 5 surgeries and now goes to a pain clinic. he has been on many pain meds over the past 10 years. now they have him on fentynal patches 75mg q48 hrs. neurontin, mobic, elavil, klonopin, and lorcet for break through. his personality has changed so much in the past year. he is sooo ill and irritable, ready to fight anybody over anything. he cannot even go to a ballgame without getting into it with someone. so unlike him.. he has a very laid back personality, very easy going never getting upset.. we have 2 kids and he has got them scared of him, me nad him are constantly arguing because he has started drinking a lot. which is serious with the meds he is on... I am considering a separation but i love him and i know that this is not him.. i want my husband back.. He goes to the pm doc this week, i have to work and cannot go with him.. i am considering calling the nurse and expressing my concerns.. he is wanting to come off the patches and from what i have read his mental changes could be from them.. would it be wrong for me to call the dr. he would be very very upset if he knew i did but i think i am nad just tell them it has to be confidential..