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Valentines Day

dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 9,878
edited 06/11/2012 - 8:27 AM in Matters of the Heart
Here is something for people to think about and respond.
I know of a couple of friends (male and female) that have a problem with Valentines day.
Their feeling is that WHY should there be one day when we show our devotion and love to the person we live with or love?
Every day we should be showing those feelings, so naming a day when Flowers, Candy, etc are the norm, what does that really mean?

It is a day, in like other special days on the calendar, its something to be observed.

Is it a special day that we show our feelings?

Or is it a day, when so many just try to 'buy' the other one?

Love is 365 days a year 24 hours a day. It like Chronic pain can have good days and bad ones. But we know it is something we live with, the chronic pain, not by choice, but our others, always by choice.
Ron DiLauro Spine-Health System Administrator
I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences
You can email me at: rdilauro@veritashealth.com


  • Oh, Paul, you cracked me up big time!! What a hoot!

    My husband and I have been married for 21 years. We have never, ever, ever celebrated Valentine's Day. Every day since we've been married (ok, we hated each other our first year), we have kissed each other goodbye in the morning and hello when we see each other in the evening. Some people might consider it a bit strange, but in the mornings before work, I stand in the garage next to my hubby while he warms up his car. Then when it's time for him to leave, we kiss and say I love you and goodbye then he gets in his car and we wave at each other before I close the garage door. Overkill? Nope. We love each other every minute of every day and we never forget it.

    Happy Valentines Day! :-)
  • I love Valentine's Day because - to me it's all about love.
    and how can you not love conversation hearts, children's
    valentine cards, flowers and talk of love. Actually we were supposed to get married on Valentine's Day - but we had a last minute fight, I cancelled the chapel - and that's why we were married on the 16th instead - by the time we made up, some other bride had our time reserved.
    But I do love Valentine's Day - heart shaped frosted sugar cookies - but my back sure isn't letting me do any baking this year! As usual every single thing seems to be affected by back pain!!!
  • I feel it is a way for companies to rip off the public.Shallow people cave in to the commercialism.Some people just don't even feel that they have a choice because of just what Paul said-whenever he was younger he felt obligated to buy gifts for his g/f on v-day on HIS birthday-what's up with that?

    Also-It would be out of character for Michael to buy me a gift because the calender dictated as much,and if he did,I would think he were being phony.

    Another thing I don't understand is - why does it seem that men get the short end of the stick on 2/14? A lot of females that I know get/nay-DEMAND,really awesome gifts on the 14th-but their guys get little to nothing.

    No-I'm just not into valentines day.I used to buy my mom something though-and I always baked heart shaped cut-out cookies for my boys when they were younger.I guess I always thought if you love all year why do we need a specail DAY put aside?

    Good question though Ron ♥ lol
  • we celebrate being in love with each other 24/7. :X it may be a few hours less on some days but you get the idea!! been that way now for 28 years!! :X anyway, Valentines Day is just a special day to celebrate that love in a different way.. something special!! we have other "special" days during the year and i would not think of missing Valentines Day! a day full of cupids and hearts and flowers and pink and sweetness!! :D of lots of "i love you's" and hugssss, a thoughtful card, a nice dinner!! there are so many ways to have a Valentine's Day.. there is no need to buy anything if that is your main complaint with the day.. i just love it!!! it is such a love-ly day!! :D Jenny :)
  • Dear Suzanne,
    You are my life, I have loved you every moment of every day, you have cared and supported me in my hour of need with love encouragement and guidance, you have shared your gifts with me and my tears of joy and sadness, have your name held within and are part of us, your fleeting glance still melts my heart, you have strength and courage and make me whole. I am a better person for knowing you, and you are gifted in knowing yourself, you are thoughtful, kind and giving. You shared humility with me and have taught me everything.

    I am blessed in saying your words through me, as my own

    You loved me the first time we met and I will love you forever……and beyond.

    John xxx.

  • My husband buys sugarless truffles from laura secord for me. But he has some too. it's nice we buy little things for each other through the year but mostly him just being there for me has been great. No card this year since I can't get out. He keeps pulling out a card I bought him years ago. It makes him feel better. Charry
    DDD of lumbar spine with sciatica to left hip,leg and foot. L4-L5 posterior disc bulge with prominent facets, L5-S1 prominent facets with a posterior osteocartilaginous bar. Mild bilateral foraminal narrowing c-spine c4-c7 RN
  • When I moved over here to Denmark in 1991, there was so much which just didn`t exist. NO VALENTINES DAY , NO HALLOWEÈN, NO FATHERS DAY. All these have slowly crept into the Danish way of life within the last 5 to 8 years. The Danes are slowly warming up to them, very slowly, the florists are the main fans and card shops gingerly put some cards and hearts and roses themed wrapping paper in their display windows. Most look at these displays with a confused "what is all that about" expression.
    The one which is embraced most is Fathers Day, since it seems all so fair to have a Fathers Day when Mothers Day has existed here for many decades.It also coincides with the Constitution Day here, so it is a day off work and school, and an ideal opportunity to spend the day having fun with daddy. He gets presents and is told how special he is, and the children get taken out for the day.( many mothers probably look forward to it too, a day of freedom and well behaved children!)
    Over here the children are looking forward to "Fastelavn" a centuries old tradition originating in eating all the goodies before fasting until Easter, the children dress up and blindfolded beat a barrel full of sweets,which is hung up, the child who is lucky enough to have the barrel break open due to his blow, is crowned for the day.( and gets first pick of the sweets) I am quite an addict of Fastelavn buns myself ! It is a lovely tradition which breaks the monotomy of the long, dark, cold winters in Denmark. most children manage to attend about 5 of these parties and have enough sweets and games to last them a fortnight. Poor old Valentines Day hasn`t really a chance to break through, but like all things commercial , it will eventually, I notice the bars and restaurants in town are having Valentines Specials and people will go, not because of a deep desire to honour their loved one , but because the beer is cheaper and a "Movie Dinner and Desert" to half price is more than most Danes can resist!

    Valentines Day falls on a Saturday this year at the end of the school winter holiday, and I expect many parents will go and celebrate the end of a week where the kids have been cooped up indoors for a whole week , as the weather has been too awful to play out, except for today where its a steady 0 degrees C , and it has been snowing since 3.00 am , we have about 5 inches of beautiful powder snow , good for sledging, skiing and playing in, not sticky enough for snowmen building yet, but on the other hand they don`t come in soaking wet and cold either.
    I am thrilled to bits, if my better half comes home with a single simple red rose on Valentines Day, he knows I celebrated Valentines all of my life and it stopped abruptly when I moved here, however the times when he comes home with a bouquet of flowers "just because " on any other day means so much more. He doesn`t do it too often as I usually cry and he just can`t understand the fuss.
    Have a lovely Valentines Everyone.
    Viking x
  • dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 9,878
    I do love that Cathie, we do the same. I will admit that after being married 35 years there may be a few days here and there when that does happen. In one way Marriage can be like chronic pain. There are ups/downs. Any two people that live together after a number of years will have disagreements, will have those days when its so frustrating.
    But the best part as after those down days, the up days are so up and full of love.

    Ron DiLauro Spine-Health System Administrator
    I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences
    You can email me at: rdilauro@veritashealth.com
  • Papa Ron, there was a newspaper snippet that I cut out many, many years ago and it's been on my fridge ever since. It's yellowed now, but I think it's still valuable information for married people. I've given this to quite a few friends that were having problems. Here it is:

    "Marriage is cyclical. Forty percent of the time you are blissfully happy. You think about your spouse constantly and marvel at how lucky you were to have found each other.

    "Fifty percent of the time, life just goes along. You focus on soccer games, yard work and daily tasks. Your marriage has not taken a back seat, but has simply gone into autopilot.

    "Ten percent of the time, you are really angry. What did you ever see in each other, anyway?

    "The thing to remember is that none of this is bad. Life is full of peaks and valleys. You need one to appreciate the other. You cannot be madly in love 365 days a year, or else 'madly in love' loses some of its meaning. Would a Christmas tree be quite as beautiful if kept up all year long?"

  • dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 9,878
    What you posted makes so much sense and is so very very

    Thanks for Posting it
    Ron DiLauro Spine-Health System Administrator
    I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences
    You can email me at: rdilauro@veritashealth.com
  • my hubby bought me flowers took me for lunch then proceeded to have a nap and watch rugby for the rest off the afternoon,argggggggggggggggggggg,though i guess i must love anyhow i ve put up with it for 18 years
  • Was it the England Wales match and if so, if your hubby was supporting England I guess it spoiled the rest of the night too :(
    benji55 said:
    my hubby bought me flowers took me for lunch then proceeded to have a nap and watch rugby for the rest off the afternoon,argggggggggggggggggggg,though i guess i must love anyhow i ve put up with it for 18 years
    Keep positive!


    ...an old timer here and ex-moderator

  • could nt tell you which game it was,though he was in great form because ireland won yesterday,can t get in to rubby at all,the only good part is looking at those lovely rugby players legs lol,but thats a secret lol,don t tell the hubby lol
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