It only happens when I move, or try to get into bed, or out of bed, or cough or sneeze, then I get lower back pain so bad I can't move, the pain paralyzes my back and I can't move until it goes away. I say the pain may last for a minute. Also I have noticed I have no control over my bladder. I try to hold it but I can't. I am 36 years old. I also have kyphosis. I have a 75 degree curvature of the spine. Also I have some bone loss. I am just wondering what is wrong with me because the pain hurts so badly. I also sit in a chair all day long at my computer, so I am wondering, if I should do some exercises. I was reading bed rest helps but I am not sure how long I should rest for, until I can get healed, if that is even going to help. I say this started about 5 months ago and has not gone away. I don't get the back pain all the time, just if I move the wrong way, it sets it off and I can tell when it is going to happen because I get a little pain and if I try to bend, or sit down, then I get this back pain that makes me want to scream and yes it hurts that bad. I also went to a back doctor a long time ago and he cracked my back because of the deep curvature in my spine, to try to get it straight. I noticed a day after very severe lower back pain and pain shooting down my leg and a very bad headache that lasted for 3 days. Ever since I have had back problems, but now it's much worse. I am afraid to see a back doctor after that. So is there something I can do to try to help myself?