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A week away from my neck surgery...

AnonymousUserAAnonymousUser Posts: 49,671
edited 06/11/2012 - 8:28 AM in Matters of the Heart
And my wife and I are split up. 2 weeks ago she says she wants a divorce and walked out the door. 6 days later she comes to see the kids and says she doesn't want a divorce, she wants to go to counseling.

She is staying with a friend (or so she says).

My issue is that with all the crap going on between us, all the added stress that she has dumped on me that I am now deathly afraid of going under the knife.

She is pleading with me to get the surgery done still and she wants to be there and then help me during my 4-6 weeks of recovery.

I've lived with it for this long, what's another few months til we either split for good or work it out?


  • sunny1966ssunny1966 VIRGINIAPosts: 1,385
    Sorry you're having difficulties with your wife. This is a decision only you can make. You're the only one who knows how you feel. Good luck
  • Oh, Man that has to be tough! You will need to let your heart get you through this one! You may be best served to see if you can let go of the pain of this situation till after your surgery. Perhaps she is scared! That is easy enough to understand. But, you will need to figure out how best to handle it.

    If you can talk then do so. Perhaps you may be in need of an emergency pow-wow with a counseler, clergy, therapist etc,
    Someone who can help diffuse the situation. Try and remain calm when talking to her, no matter what the situation. I do have just enough therapy experience to know anger will not help.

    My thoughts and prayers go with you.
  • kx, I'm sorry you're going through this. I don't know you're situation exactly, but this MAY be something to think about: Women are nurterers. We love to take care of people (especially our families) and feel needed. Perhaps, just PERHAPS, after you have the surgery and she is taking care of you (and you let her), there will be a new closeness and bonding that can be the starting ground for working it out. I don't know, maybe I'm talking out my rearend, but that's the first thing I thought of when I read your post.

    I hope everything works out for you. The added stress is so very difficult.

    Take care,
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