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dealing with doctors

K61KK61 Posts: 20
edited 06/11/2012 - 8:29 AM in Chronic Pain
I am not sure if this is in the right spot or not, but here it goes. I just wanted to relay something I said to my
doctor and her answer. We were discussing my updated meds and the need for an x-ray of my bum knee again. She was concerned my limp could be aggravating my back. She also said I would have to probably see an orthopedic specialist.
She had that look that someone gets when they know they arn't being much help.

I then told her that I know that no matter what she does that I will never be fixed or completely pain free. She already knew I had been dealing with this for many years.
I said I know there is no pill she could give me or a magic wand she could wave to make me better. If you could have seen her face, it was just the look of great relief. My doc just said she wished alot more of her patients knew that.

I often have to remind myself of this because I find myself so engrossed with pain I forget most doctors really are trying to help.

C4-C6 fusion w/plate, lumbar stenosis


  • Good comment. Providing you have a doctor that you trust, of course.
    Mine keeps telling me that my cervical arthritis is just wear and tear, and my neck is worn out. Can't be fixed.
    He is a bit blunt but pragmatic and realistic, and I've found him to be accurate in all other things I've presented him with. We share a joke or two and I trust him to be honest with me.
    Having said that, there are still things that I can do which he hasn't promoted, such as regular exercising and stretching.
    I see him every 2-3 weeks to get pain scripts, so I suppose he thinks I am in too much pain to bother.
    But I do feel that overall he understands my problems.
    He keeps telling me that bodies just wear out so get used to it!
  • sunny1966ssunny1966 VIRGINIAPosts: 1,385
    I've been told that too that bodies just wear out and that it's just getting older that causes a lot of these pains. Well, yeah I agree with that but I don't feel like I'm old enough to just have to give up and live with it....hopefully I'll live several more years and I'd like to enjoy some of them if possible. I know they can't fix everything and don't expect it but I do expect them to try to help me get some relief so that I can do the things that I have to do you know? I'm 42 and I know I can't do all the things I used to but I don't feel like that is "old". At least not old enough to have to sit and watch the grass grow....well I can't. I'm the one who has to mow it!! lol. I'm always saying how they don't make things to last anymore...cars, washers, etc....I didn't think that went for human bodies too. lol :? I just don't like it when they use that as the answer to everything and leave it at that you know? If that's how we're supposed to look at it, from the day we were born we know we're going to die so why bother? Just lay back and wait?? Sorry, got carried away.
  • I wish I could find a doc that would be more positive. the only one who was honest with me was one of my neurologist when he told me he didn't know what was wrong with me and couldn't help me. that was a few years back, I feel like its been so long I cant even remember when exactly. said I know. anyway so I just started seeing someone a spine clinic, I have only seen him once but he seemed nice and like he wanted to help but I don't know anymore I have been throw so many doc's its hard to trust them. the thing that got me was he said I will never be able to do every thing I once could or want to, including my knitting I use to love to knit I had to give it up in oct b/c I was waking up at night with pain in my hands now it has goten so bad even tho i stoped I cant even tie my shows with out pain and most of the time they just hurt along with the rest of me. sorry im rambing I just want to talk to people who under stand especially about the docs saying its just wear and tear. I feel like I am way to young for the amount of pain. so I guess in the end I want to know if any one has found a way to deal with the pain and well if anyone has tips for trying to live like this.
  • He has told me that my surgery will not cure my problem but will help me hopefully have less pain and that for 10 days after surgery I will wonder what I have done. I admire his honesty even if it is not exactly what I wanted to hear
  • Your doctor has given you honest advice. Back surgery is almost always considered "elective" surgery and is mostly done for pain relief. It cannot return us to the way we were years ago prior to a back injury or the onset of pain. Once you have surgery, you will always be different. In most cases, it will improve your condition, but it will not completely restore you to the way you were.

    Good luck with your upcoming fusion. It is a BIG surgery, but we all manage to survive one way or another!!

    I had read so many posts for three years before agreeing to fusion that I was absolutely expecting the very worst! I had read all the horror stories and was anticipating the same. As a result, I was pleasantly surprised. It wasn't nearly as bad as I was anticipating!!

    At the beginning of healing, it is no picnic, but they will keep you well-medicated. It is important to keep a positive attitude. It sounds like you have a great faith so that will help you, too. The most important thing I have to pass on is to learn to not expect too much too soon. Be Patient!! This healing takes much longer than any of us think it should take!!

    Before you know it, you'll be counting how many weeks post-surgery you are...and before you know it, it is the first aniversary...and, life goes on. And, hopefully, you'll be feeling fabulous by then.

    Hang in there. >:D<

    xx Gwennie
  • I appreciate your kind words. Patience is not my best quality but I guess it will get better in the coming days.
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