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Anyone have a fusion and have a toddler at home?

AnonymousUserAAnonymousUser Posts: 49,671
edited 06/11/2012 - 8:29 AM in Back Surgery and Neck Surgery
Anyone have a fusion and have a toddler at home?

I am in bad shape right now and I am considering an anterior lumbar fusion on 3 discs that my orthopedic surgeon recommended. In fact, I have already decided to do it but waiting on insurance approval.

The biggest concern I have right now is that I have a very physical and brawny 2 year old boy and I am a stay at home mom. My husband works 4 nights a week and then has 4 days off so I am really concerned about how I am going to take care of my son the days he works. I have family and friends willing to come and help me but I really don't have any idea how long I really need help with him.

Has anyone been in this situation or something similar? What have you done? Do you have any advice for me?


  • I am having a 360 lumbar spinal fusion in the morning (wow that's only 8 hours away) and I to have a 13 month old and a 5 year old... I have my mom staying with me to help... My Dr. told me I would need the help for at least 6 weeks seeing I will not be able to bend or left up on anything.. Plus I have PT 3 times a week for 3 to 4 months... So my mom will be helping for a while... I would get a list of the people willing to help and my a chart with who can help on what days because you will really need the rest... I can't even begin to think about how hard it is going to be not to be able to play around with my babies but I just keep telling myself how much better it will be in the long run... I will keep you updated on how quickly things start to get back to normal as for as being a mom... Good luck with your surgery...
  • you will need help for quite a while with a 2 year old. They dont understand why you cant pick them up. I have a 8 month old grandaughter and it has been hard not being able to pcik her up. But you find ways of dealing with it. I want to wish you luck. I had a two level PLIF in Dec and it is a long recovery, but think of how much better you will be afterward and the joys of being able to enjoy yours kids and thier activities so much more. I hope you get your approval soon. Any questions, please let me know. I will be waiting to hear how it is going.
  • Thanks for the advice! I know that by the time my son is three I should be better than I have been in a long time and it will be worth it. I surely am not doing all the things with my son that I wanted to do and I would be a much better mother if I wasn't in a drugged stupor all the time.

    I do have people who are willing to help so that is a relief. My son is going through the terrible two's which is challenging for me now when I am not physically capable all of the time. I am blessed with a supportive friends and family who want to help out because they know how big Noah is and they feel like he could be dangerous to me with his fits while I am trying to heal from a three level fusion. He is 35 pounds and needs anger management! LOL

    Angela: I hope your surgery went well today!
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