On 10/14 I am going in to have a 2 level fusion of L4-L5 and L5-S1. I have been reading this board for months, and doing other research to prepare for the surgery. Well, my live-in boyfriend has it in his mind that I will be up and around in a few weeks after the surgery and that I am being overly dramatic when I try to tell him other wise. Since the doctor said that he didn't want me to just lay there and do nothing, now my boyfriend thinks that I will be walking and moving around like "normal" what ever the hell that is.. I am so aggravated with him and his closed mind approach to this surgery. He says that he isn't going to let me lay in bed when I get home from the hospital. I have no intention of just rolling over and dying after the surgery but for God sakes let me heal a bit. This isn't exactly the easiest thing to recover from, I have been dealing with severe pain for 5 years and my body isn't very strong. I feel like a 37 yo woman in a 85 yo body.
As of late we fight about this daily, I am getting sick of it. I asked him to come here and read about the surgery and recovery, but he keeps saying that everyone is different. I know that, but for God sakes I know that I'm not going to be dancing a jig 3 weeks out of surgery. What can I say to him for him to come back to reality and see that this isn't as simple as removing a splinter???? To me this is major surgery and I want to be prepared for it. Thanks Nikki