I'm not sure this is the right place for this post. Sorry if I make a mistake. I'm crying as I type this. My fiancee had back surgery a month ago. (It didn't work) Before this herniation he was very active going to the gym, boating, motorcycle, very phyisical job. He was always out going, social etc. I went to every appt. with him, slept in a chair at the hospital, etc. Well last monday he kissed me as he went out the door for a short walk and didn't come back. He has gone back to stay at his house. He said he still loves me and will be back but wants to be alone. I know he is depressed. He wont answer the phone for me or friends. He doesn't want visits from anyone. He just sits in the house. (neighbors tell me, they are worried too) I just feel so helpless. I want to help and support him and take care of him. He said he doesn't understand why I want to be with him because he cant do anything anymore. sorry for the long post. I just need some help. Is this normal? How can I help him if he wants to be alone? I am heartbroken and so hurt and so worried about him. Thanks to anyone who responds.