I just PM'd Straker and part of what I wrote was to ask how his wife is doing through all of his problems.
That got me thinking about how our families deal with our pain issues, be it dealing with chronic pain, or recovery from a difficult surgery, etc.
While it may be our personal struggle with the pain and all it may bring, it also can have such an impact on our loved ones. I know I sometimes feel guilty for the things we don't do anymore. I'm lucky that my spouse is so helpful and understanding, but sometimes I just wish he would say something like "this stinks for all of us"...