Hi Fellow Spineys and Neckies,
I need your help. Those of you with young kids, before your surgery (or chronic pain issues), did any of your children seem to regress and show stressful behavior?
My 5 year old has always been shy and clingy, however we were having some success with helping her come out of her shell.
I have tried to keep my issues in the "middle ground". My girls know I have back problems and that I will be having surgery to help me feel better, be a better Mom, etc. I don't give them details about what will actually happen with the surgery and try to play things down a bit so as not to scare them.
I have noticed that my one daughter is having issues and I think it may be due to her feeling stress about me going into the hospital and being away for a few days. Oh yeah, we recently had to euthanize our young dog because of aggression problems. I know this still upsets her, she misses Ruby.
I have noticed her sucking her thumb more, with her "lovey". She is giving me a hard time with getting ready for preschool, its become a struggle, she just "doesn't want to go". She wants to stay in bed, get up when she wants and just stay home with me.
Obviously this is not good. I am just wondering if this is a temporary thing that will go away once I have come home and recuperated. Or, does she have bigger issues and the surgery is just happening at the same time?
Has anyone dealt with issues like this? Any input would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for your time.