First message here. There are many of you with much, much more serious conditions; let me say that. I am not in debilitating pain and I am able to walk and I am employed. But as a 39-year-old with ever-decreasing mobility and a long string of unsuccessful attempts at controlling my lower back pain, I am quickly running out of confidence that this will get better, or even be controlled.
A super brief summary: back problems run in the family; my dad is basically immobile without serious narcotic pain meds, and he's only 67. Since I was 19 I've had periodic bouts of spasms and disc issues; basically the only thing that has ever helped was days of bed rest/pain pills/muscle relaxants. I used to be extremely, as in morbidly overweight, and am no longer; I have gained some weight, I should probably be 50 pounds lower than I am now overall.
In the past two years I've been unable to go to the gym regularly because no matter what I do, after a few weeks, I end up in bed with spasms and pain. Of late I feel stiffness is the norm; I can barely, to be frank, use the toilet on some days, I'm so inflexible. I've tried physical therapy; after 30 days, I had a back episode virtually the next day.
I've tried a chiropractor, who had me three times a week, then two times, then not at all, then three times a week again, and it usually feels better for a few hours, but has made (to my mind) no real change in the "macro" picture.
I've tried weight lifting and not weight lifting. I've babied it lately to the point where I feel it must be atrophying further; but the opposite approach wasn't working either (exercising hard). Neither was the middle road (modest exercise); I recently tried Back Rx Yoga, and it felt kind of good, and the day after the third brief (pathetically brief, really -- I am not capable of much motion) session, I had mini-spasms and so haven't done a fourth yet. Spent the weekend in bed, and spent yesterday in bed.
I've been to five orthos over the years; they have all basically said variations of "nothing to operate on; very common disc degeneration; stretch and do your exercises; nothing I can do."
Is there anything I've not yet tried?
Do I have to be super skinny? Is that it?
I just got married and I feel like I won't be able to pick up a kid if we have any.
Thanks for listening.