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Well this takes the cake..husband stealing my pain meds...

sagehenssagehen Posts: 221
edited 06/11/2012 - 7:44 AM in Pain Medications
What to do with a passive /aggressive that is now stealing my pain medication? As if being in pain isn't enough,I just discovered my husband has been taking my pain meds....so now I will run out before my refill date. And you all know what that will be like. Unbelievable,well not really,having come to the realization(by direction of my therapist) that my husband is both passive/aggressive and narcissistic,this is just one more thing.
I've had a cervical headache for 5 days.....went to take a painkiller and found the bottle in a different location,so I counted them,I am 3 days short.....lovely...what a guy.....I just had to vent...Sagehen


  • Well, that does take the cake, so to speak. I guess it's time for you to get a lockbox and keep the key with you or very well hidden.

    Sorry to hear about this - this particular type of situation really bugs the you-know-what outta me!

  • Confronting him will be interesting...and possibly a little entertaining too. Like I said,just one more thing....
    How is your recovery from the TLIF coming along?
    It does take time....hope you are doing well. Saghen
  • in a small safe and only i have the key .as for your husband ..i dont think i should say any more!!
  • Maybe you chould call the police and file a report, see what he says?
  • That's really shocking to hear. I'm sorry now you'll be short on your pain meds and how your husband can't understand why you need your meds. I asked my Pain Management Dr. to talk with my husband about chronic pain and how it's necessary to take meds. I would ask your PM Dr. to see him. Take care. Charry
    DDD of lumbar spine with sciatica to left hip,leg and foot. L4-L5 posterior disc bulge with prominent facets, L5-S1 prominent facets with a posterior osteocartilaginous bar. Mild bilateral foraminal narrowing c-spine c4-c7 RN
  • have to get a safe with a lock/key that only you have access or know the number to, and one he won't guess. Being at university, I lost track of how many ex boyfriends found my pain medication (or roomies in the dorm or their friends on the floor) who found a way to swipe my supply clean. I would then honestly approach my doctor at the time and let them know what was up, but I had to sign a contract saying I would from that moment forth get a safe for my medication, and no longer would they refill any missing medication, because that to them=drug seeking behavior, and once you're in that category, it takes a journey through hell and high water to scratch off that label. Not suggesting anything medical here, just check out local pharmacies, and see what they offer, I even went out of my way once, and paid for a safety deposit box, and I never had a problem the rest of the year at that school, except of course, my roomies, my exs and their buddies curious about "all that medication you used to be on...ummm..like...are you off it now or something" I of course said yes, just to throw them further from the scent. The safety deposit box kept my main supply of meds, scripts and notes from doctors, plus i had a tiny lockable key box for doses per day, and emergencies. It is a SERIOUS PAIN in the you know what, but if it's complicated because it's a situation you can't just throw in his or anyones face, my route was just another option if you haven't found one. Good luck darlin, and pm me if you want to chat:)
  • This is one of the reasons for my divorce. Not only was he stealing my meds but buying whatever he could to get high. He could go out and spend his whole paycheck on meds. I put him through rehab and he still couldn't handle me having pain meds and went back to his old ways. I did go buy a small safe after I found out he was stealing my meds. But he couldn't handle knowing meds were in the house and me having to take them to ease my pain. I couldn't live like that anymore and was just tired of the whole battle. Good Luck!
  • This is really sad. he has no regard for you at all. I can imagine your peace of mind in all areas is now gone.
  • Wow what a great guy!! I hope you make it through the month without severe pain. If your PM is like mine, they will not replace scripts for lost or stolen meds. I was advised on my first visit to keep my meds low profile and tell no one what I take and to keep them under lock and key. My FNP said medication theft is big business in my area. I haven't taken that last step yet. I probably should.
  • OMG! How terrible! Your own husband? What the hell is wrong with him???
  • I use the Gunvault safe, size of a lockbox but has key pad and a key option for opening. I like this because it is a little more secure from the "generic" lock boxes you find at a Staples or walmart.

    Not worried about my wife since narcotics make her severly ill, but guests, my house cleaner or any hired workers in the house. They do cost more, about 80.00 to 120.00, but worth the extra security.

    I have the mini.

    As for you Husband.... I have no idea where to start. Maybe others will guide you. And sorry that sucks.


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    Dave, Spine-Health Authority 08/19/10
  • I am sorry you are going thru this. I can't imagine him doing this knowing you are going to run out early. Withdrawls is serious business and essentially, that is the spot he's trying to put you (whether he's knowingly doing it or not). I'd have a good talk with him about it and tell him the consequences.

    And I agree with ALL the others in that a safe is needed in this instance. they do not cost too much, but you have to get them locked up!!
  • thats partly why i use patches. its less likely to be stolen, though i know not a whole lot less likely. I know a guy at my work deals pills as a side job, and id like to think he wouldn't do that to me, but if family will, you know co workers can easily steal meds too.

    i think the lockbox is a good idea. and maybe counseling for you husband. Is he taking your meds for his own addiction, or because he simply wants to make sure you dont have them? That could make a difference too on how you deal with the awefull situation.

    im sorry. :(
  • I never had that problem with my meds being taken by anyone. But a few years ago my PM dr. accused me iof either selling or hording my pills. I had a lot of pain and I had to take a few ectra ones until I got to see him. I called to make an appointment sooner to get a new script and he had me take a piss test. He said that the test showed Methadone that he had perscribed as a breakthough, that i had been told by him to discontinue. I knew that I hadn't taken any in a long time. On my next appointment he gave me 2 scripts and a list of other drs. I was so hurt that he accused me of selling my meds, because I knew that I hadn't. My dsughter said thst it probably was something else that didn't have anythingb to do with me. A few months later his practice closed. I don't know what I would do if someone took my meds, as I told him I Need THEM for my PAIN. And I am really scared of ODing so I space even my night time meds so I take some early evening around 7PM and my Oxy at bedtime I don't want to wake up DEAD!!!!!!I feel that you need a lock box and atleast scare him into thinking that you will call the POLICE. SLH
  • It seems that you do not know your husband as well as you thought you did, huh?
    If nothing more, you have discovered his potential for deceit. Keep your controlled substances locked away somewhere, or better yet, put your med bottle inside a mouse trap in the dark...I love it, lol!
    Play fire with fire, as they say in Hell.
  • darlindeb1ddarlindeb1 Baltimore Posts: 1
    My husband has been doing the same for 17 years. We have been married 43 years and it breaks my heart. He is retired now and has been in bed since I noticed 19 hours ago. He gives me the silent treatment ( drives me crazy) and somehow in the end ........every time I am the one that apologizes for something I say. I am so weak I make myself ill. I need to pack myself up and walk out the door. But then , where do I go. He brings in all the cash. To live with one of our kids. Too embarrassed. I feel defeated. Safe box won't work. He doesn't care if I find it broke! I need to speak to our Doctor who gives him pain MedStar. I go to real pain management. At hate when this happens. I am so sad, then angry, then sad again. I have to trust God. Anything less scares me!
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