I have always done all I can to avoid surgery and the surgeon and physiatrists have agreed. But after 5yrs of pain and 2.5 years of life robbing, career limiting pain, I am ready to ask for surgery. I just scheduled an appointment with a highly regarded neurosurgeon in the area for July 23.
I am tired of taking over a dozen pills a day and still being in miserable pain. I am tired of missing work and making my family suffer financially. I am tired of not being about to be the father I should be to my children. I am tired of being less of a husband than I once was, from helping around the house to our sex life. But is it right for me to go into this appt specifically seeking surgery? My mind is mulling over anything I can do to make him take things seriously enough to ACT.
Part of it is that I refuse to go to a PM doctor. I do not want more meds. Period. My back problem is not that serious, and it seems crazy to have my life effected so much over something so small. I am young. I look fairly fit. I seem vibrant and lively. I have a hard time complaining to doctors. And I don't know how to accurately describe or rate my pain (the 1-10 scale is insanely subjective; my 4 might be someone else's 9). I think that all of these things conspire to make the doctors think my pain doesn't wreck my life. Well it does and I need something done.
Anyway, does anyone have any insights into when or how you made the decision that you'd had enough and actively sought surgery? And does anyone have any thoughts on how to encourage the doctor to take you seriously and operate?