is what we all have to deal with. We have tons of posts where members talk about their medical problems, their situations with doctors, the surgeons, all the diagnostic tests and so much more. For the most part this is black and white and easy to understand.
We may not always agree with how all of this is handled or what is actually being done to help our situations.
Unfortunately, chronic pain is something that not everyone understands, its something that cant be measured, so both the laymen and the medical professionals might not get everything right. This is our battle, our personal war we have to fight daily.
But, there is more, the emotional toll this takes. Not only the drain on our mental strength, but also the tool it places on our families and loved ones.
We sit and watch how they adjust and handle our situations. Sure, some handle it better than others. But overall, to me, its unfair. If we had something like a missing limb, it would be easier for others to understand. But for us, it just doesnt show. People cant see our pain. They do see what it does to us , how it can make our moods swing back and forth. But can they say the drain in our eyes?
We have the physical aspect to deal with and that is our personal war. But our loved ones, when they look at us and dont understand, what can we expect? When they see us sick, see us in pain, see us throwing up, see us not wanting to be around others...
Do they understand? Can they understand?
My hope for all of us is to have as much of a pain free life as possible and also for an understanding and thanks to our families that have to deal and witness all what goes on.
None of this is easy.... But we all must find the way we can move on.
I wish we all have the physical and emotional strength to deal with all of this.
Ron DiLauro Spine-Health System Administrator I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences