I am just curious if anyone else has had marriage issues or problems due to your back/surgery..
I am the "alpha" male type...I am/was the bread winner of the family. my ego has been destroyed, and I don't know if its the pain or other things causing problems..
1)18 weeks post op I still am in a good amount of pain, I often snap at my wife and have to appologize later.
2)I have been out of work for over 6 months now, our income has gone from over 160k, to 60k... to some people that may be alot, but when your mortgage is based off your old income, cant sell your house because even though you have paid 50k off on your house, your still underwater due to housing market..and you have 2 car payments... that is added pressure to me.
3)I have worked very hard to where I have gotten in life with my 2 degree's, my masters and putting long hours and years in with large global companies... last night my wife was trying to be helpful and said was saying how so and so called and they have a job in a factory as a shift supervisor....this would be a 60k pay cut to what I used to make and do irreputable damnage to my resume... but she expected me to be excited about this and still can't grasp the concept that I can't stand on my feet for 10 hours on hard concrete....
it just seems like everything has snowballed and I fear a divorce is comming soon. I know some of you may find this stupid, but I already am starting to resent my wife. she never finished college, has been promoted again and again in a company that wont even hire me. She will be the first to tell you, I am smarter then her (tested in 97 percentile in the nation for IQ) and have worked harder to get where I have in life...but in the same time has the nerve to say "if it was me, its not, but if it was, I would take the factory job"...as she strolls off to her corporate job, that I used to have. I don't mean to, but I am used to being the MALE , the providor... I have worked very hard with my career and school...and I can't even get a job interview right now for anything substantial... I love her to death, but I fear I am begining to resent the hell out of her and the "luck" she has had with her career...hell I even do more of her complicated projects for her sometimes at night at home. but whats that matter anymore..Edited
I dunno, just frustrated and about to leave...tired of pain, tired of being kicked and going on wasted job interviews.
Editedfor the women who want "equal pay"...study shows women between 22-30...make on average 8% MORE then their male counterparts.
**sorry just frustrated beyond I can even express.
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