I've posted something like this before, over a year ago and because I see so many members that have just had surgery or are going to have surgery and have recovery questions, I want to post this reminder about surgery recovery.
I'm going to speak for 99.9% of us that have had spine surgery and say that recovery is a very, very, very long road. I'm posting this because I've seen a common threads among spineys that say they're still in pain after 4 weeks, or 6 weeks, or 8 weeks or even longer.
Well, you know what? Darned right you are! You betcha!
I didn't realize until after I experienced my surgeries, seeing others' experiences and talking with folks here on SH that any spine surgery is very major surgery, even if it holds the title "minimally invasive."
That's NOT to say that it isn't worth doing because so many times it is (both of mine included), it's just to say that you and your loved ones both need to realize you are embarking on a long journey, not necessarily a BAD one, just a long one.
I've read and talked with members that have tried to do things way too soon out of surgery (I'm talking at even three months) that are putting themselves in a position for failure. We all need to remember that we can't do housework, we can't walk up or down hills, we have to adhere to our restrictions, and we have to rely on others for quite a long time.
The most difficult part of recovery is when you think you're feeling better and the boredom starts to set in. That's when you do more than you should and pay the price the next day or even the same day. This is also the most critical time to remind yourself that you're still healing even though you may look pretty good on the outside, you still need to adhere to restrictions, you still can't do many things that you used to do, and you still need help with some things. The time will come when you can do more, but no matter what anyone says, recovery from surgery is a very long road and has to be treated with respect and patience. Don't risk a failed surgery because you're bored and/or see something not getting done that you think you can do yourself - you can't. Just do a little more walking and something to get your brain moving, like thinking-type games, movies or reading.
With that being said, SH is a very valuable resource for you because you'll find a lot of information here on these forums and outside these forums, and you'll also find support, others' experiences and friendship. And when it's over, you're finally recovering and someone asks you what surgery you had, you can hold your head up high (hopefully LOL) and say that you made it through a very difficult spine surgery - with success!
Now, take care care of yourselves post-op and have a successful surgerical outcome.