I am not writing this for ppl to say i am sorry to hear this news so PLEASE do not respond that way.
A very close relative of mine has terminal cancer.
She has fought her stage 4 lung cancer for 2.5 years. She is now in the hospital trying to get proper pain control because she has mets to the peritoneum (lining covering the abdominal organs). When i think of what she is going thru I laugh at my complaints of pain and misery because i have a life to live and i am saddened that her life is almost over.
You all are not terminal, live your life, keep active, find a hobby, enjoy your family. Pain should not be the center of your life. Work to find what works for you to decrease your pain whether it be meds or mental activity. I find the more active i am, the more i am with ppl the happier i am.
Do something everyday that you love to do even when u are in pain. My pain is always with me but i don't let it control me anymore- That is my MANTRA.
Maybe there should be a subject topic here at sh that is just for positive support so members can rally behind each other. That way members can here small positive things that ppl do. "Good news" is not used enough.
Have a good day,