I am a spouse of someone in persistent pain and I am so tired of watching my poor husband suffer. It seems like there must be an answer somewhere but I just can't find it. We have been battling his low back pain since his 20's and he just turned 40. It has ruined us financially, put strain on relationships, robbed him of being able to do more active things with our son, and diminished his will to do anything.
It all started with a sneeze...he lived with the herniated discs for a few years and we blindly sought the help of pain management doctors. I say blindly not because I disagree with anybody taking meds, I think it is a personal journey and choice for everyone. However, regardless you must make an informed choice. In our youth, we didnt, we just trusted the docs to make choices for us and it resulted in a severe percoset/soma addicition. The docs at that time were telling him to take 15 advil per day to help the inflamation. He has had back surgery & epidurals which did nothing to help him...and possibly made it worse. Now, he is 5 years clean from opiates and has severe ulcerations down his esophogus, stomach, and intestines from the excessive advil. He cannot digest his food properly and runs to the bathroom with violent diahrea after every meal. He his left foot is freezing cold at all times, and he has constant muscle spasms down his leg, you can actually see the muscle throbbing ALL OF THE TIME. His low back is in constant pain and he has since developed cyst like tumors near the incision site on his back. From all the abuse to his body his teeth have not held up well and he has periodontitis which also causes him constant discomfort. He is also developing knobs on his joints indicative of arthritis. Despite all of this, he drags his broken body to work every day to support his family and works 10 hour days on his feet as a chef. He cannot focus on his job, he looks crippled, and he sobs for 1/2 hour everyday before he goes to work. He cannot take any opiates because of his past experience with pill addiction and he also is unable to take over the counter pain meds because of his sever ulcers. We use as much natural product as we can but his pain is so aggressive it doesn’t help.
He cannot do this for another 25 years and I fear he will not have the chance to try if he had to. I don't know what to do...where do we go from here? I would really love to hear a success story from anyone who has been where he is. Please help