As spinal patients, we all know (or should know) about our restrictions and limitations. We know the things we should be doing and those we should not be doing.
On paper, that is so very easy. But in reality it becomes so much harder.
When we as spinal patients are limited to some of the physical things we can do, that workload has to come elsewhere. It could be your spouse, it could be your children, it could be in people that you hire.
For me, personally, not being able to do all the physical work, but yet watch my wife doing all that work is harder and more painful to me than my physical conditions. Its not a male/female thing, its just that I want to do so much more.
But if I do, I wind up potentially causing more problems. And if that happens, that is just another burden I place on my wife.
How to accept that we can do only so much is very important. But then knowing that we all owe it to our loved ones to find other ways in which we can offer some level of compensation.
I've been struggling with this since 1978, and I guess I always will.
Ron DiLauro Spine-Health System Administrator I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences