Ok...after I digested the news that I was inoperable and would eventually have to accept paralysis...I found a third doctor. Since then:
I spent a month in a Vista in position 6 to stretch neck. 24/7 could lower it to 4 for meals... NOT fun!! this was done to see if any discs would slide back away from my SC. 3 of them did!
Royally failed Babinski,Hoffman's, tandem walking, reflex tests etc...surgery was deemed necessary asap to stop the advance.
I got the next open surgery day 2 weeks after the decision was made...my choices were simple....paralysis or slight risk of paralysis...chose slight risk.
I was despurred centrally and foraminally, discectomied and fused, the retrolisthesis was fixed in the fusion; not sure if he did anything to the hypertrophic tendons. I'm one month post op. I still have some swallowing difficulties, mainly fatigue at this point. My voice is still up and down, sounds really gravelly. Still collared because of slow healing issues...I'm an odd ball!! It seems at this point I have some central cord syndrome but I can totally live with that! I can walk and I should be able to walk for the foreseeable future, just more slowly right now. Right hand is the most affected.
All in all, i'm good! I actually feel pretty awesome. I might need surgery later, there was some spurring at 4 and the disc at 4 had been affecting my hearing. 4 slid past needing surgery because it slipped back in place; the collar therapy helped that at least for now. I've had some really emotional moments as I've realized how much was affected that I never knew about. I think this recovery might take a while, and my issues may never be 'over' but at least now I'm ok. :-) TX for the advice you gave me. I'm here if any of you have questions, and I'll probably have more myself!