Had a visit with a pain psychologist. She would like to have my DH come to an appt. so she can talk to him about my condition. I am concerned he will be very upset if he goes. He really doesn't want to hear that I need help. He is ego centric and has many of his own problems including health and economic. She feels if I don't get him to understand my physical issues I am going to break and it won't be pretty. I also voiced that I need to keep my job. She told me that if I don't find a way to get help and take care of myself that I probably won't be able to do that. So far I think that I need to go get some help from her for myself and see what that brings. I am going to make the appts. right now. I mentioned the pain psychology appt. to DH. I didn't choose to tell him about him going to an appt. I did tell him what she said. He didn't really have much to say. Later he said : " Did you tell her you ride on a motorcycle?" (on the back occasionally) My spine problems have been going on for 4 years. He has taken me to surgery, injections, MBB, 3 SCS trials etc. I am concerned if anything more serious happens he won't be able to help take care of me. I took care of him after his 2 heart attacks.
He has always put his needs first and we have 3 grown daughters that I primarily have raised and worked full time during most of there lives. Can I expect him to change? I know that I can't change him. He has to want to change. We have many stressors in our lives esp. finances. I do think I love him but sometimes??? Any suggestions? Thanks for the vent. Nancy
Severe DDD. Klippel Feil Deformity. Cervical Foraminatomy that turned into Lamy. I have tried so many treatments, therapy's and medications.