Did you ever ask your pain mgmt. doc if he/she has ever experienced pain? After I'd seen my doc for about a year, he was going to implant a spinal cord stimulator and I was understandably very nervous. At my last pre-op appt. I asked him how he relates to his patients so well, if he'd ever experienced chronic pain himself.
He was frank and honest and told me about tearing up his knee when he was younger and the doc upon going back into a fully open knee joint ( this was pre-arthroscopic surgery)to debride infection, scraped off all the articular cartilage.
He lifted the leg of his scrub pants to reveal a ghastly scar.
Now we commiserate about weather changes when storms roll through, and I know the man I am trusting with my spinal cord and all my meds is as empathetic as they get, stoic about not taking meds himself, but can relate to me.
It's comforting for me to know this -