My beloved 74 yr old mother has severe scoliosis and just had an L2 to S1 9no, it is not a mistake, it was that big) laminectomy with screws and ??? to stabilize torqued vertebra.
She was in severe pain for many months pre-surgery and was not able to go anywhere except for dr appointments etc. Prior to that she was a high functioning person, gourmet cook, master gardener.....
Based on watching her walk (before and after) and climb stairs, i believe the surgery worked; however, she had multiple post-op complications (one examle: low BP precipitating massive IV infusion resulting in 'wet lungs' and breathing issues, precipitating panic attacks, requiring lasix, resulting in low sodium resulting in .......you get the picture. she was in ICU for about 10 days and then on a regular floor for 10 days.
She was released from the hospital after 3 weeks and I flew home to take care of her, but she is SO DEPRESSED. She cries all the time and wishes she never had the surgery and feels that her life is over. She lost about 10 lbs (now 110 lbs) and has no appetite. She is emotionally, physically and psychologically exhausted. i am feeding her ensure on ice, crackers, oatmeal (made with ensure), cream of rice, anything she can tolerate....but she needs to build up her strength and resting all day is not going to do it. I have to push her so hard to get her to walk and do the PT exercises and eat and do ANYTHING.
Her husband, my dad, has bent over backwards to make her happy, run every errand, bought every food she likes, and will do ANYTHING for her, but he simply can not handle the depression and 'negative attitude'.
Any advice on how to help her see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel? I am so poorly equipt to help her as i have never experienced depression or prolonged recovery.....i just don't know wht to say or do and neither does my dad.
We need your help and advice on how to help her see that there is a new day and that she is on the road to better days, she needs to eat and work on the PT and try to find a little space in her heart for gratitude and happiness and a light at the end of the tunnel.....
help, please! it is so hard to see a loved one suffer and not know what to do!