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ajr3az76aajr3az76 Posts: 45
edited 06/11/2012 - 8:58 AM in Depression and Coping
So i am a little more than 4 months post-op on my surgery. I own my business which i have had for almost 8 years with 6 years of previous exp. in same field. I am married with 5 children an feel like a complete waste of a parent and husband. I have been on food stamps for almost 2 years now after filing for bankruptcy back in 2010. we lost everything. My wife went through depression and now i guess its my turn. I have no college experience and find myself wondering wht the hell happened. I Went from making 70k a year to now barely 20k. I dont even know how i am going to make rent this month. I know i am not the only one going through dificult times but i feel soo alone. the last thing i want to do is cause my family more grief but i have no idea how i am goping to provide a decent life for them. I have never in my life felt so completely hopeless and just wish that i could wake up and it was 5 years ago. Any words of encouragement would be nice.

I wonder if i should go see the doctor for some anti-deppresant medication because i hate feeling this way.



  • sorry that you are going through a difficult time. You and I had surgery a couple of days appart. My discectomy/lami was unsuccessful and I am now going to have an adr or fusion.

    I have also been having some down times, I am giving up my nursing job that I love, and we are moving out of the home we also love, just too much upkeep.

    How are you feeling physically after your surgery? I would definately speak to your doctor, they will know what kind of medication to try that may help.Talking to someone can also be helpful.

    Keep coming on here, it is a great place to vent and there are always others around to listen.

    >:D< Karen
    >:D< >:-D< : Karen
    L3-S1 herniation and bulges, stenosis, mod facet,ddd,impinged nerves,coccydinia
    discectomy/lami July 2011-unsuccessful
    adr L5-S1 Feb 2012
  • It's rough you're going through all this now because of your health. Have you applied for government disability? You really should see your Dr. and get some help from him. I take Cymbalta, an anti-depressant and it also helps with chronic back pain and nerve pain.

    I hope you will heal after your surgery but still apply for SSDI if you're in the States. Worrying about finances s something you don't need right now and hope you somehow get social services to help pay the rent this month. Never give up as tomorrow is a new day. Take care. Charry

    DDD of lumbar spine with sciatica to left hip,leg and foot. L4-L5 posterior disc bulge with prominent facets, L5-S1 prominent facets with a posterior osteocartilaginous bar. Mild bilateral foraminal narrowing c-spine c4-c7 RN
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