I try to read as many posts as I can. Many times, its the subject line that draws my attention.
Over the past several years, and even beyond that, I think one of the major areas of discussion is HOW we deal with all of this.
There really isn't one easy answer, but since I've posted words like this over and over, I wanted to do it here.
1 We have medical conditions that have saddled us with pain. For some of us, it may be only a few months , for others its been decades and longer.
2 Pain medications alone have not taken care of our pain levels and we are always looking for something else.
3 We get so frustrated and depressed because we see how we are today and can only imagine what our future will be like.
4 We can not do the things we did before all of this happened.
5 People do not understand my situation. Friends I had before begin to shy away. Our family members may also question our pain and what we have to go through every day
6 We have problems with our current doctor(s). They dont understand our situation, they say they can't do anything for us, they dont prescribe more pain medications, etc
1 This is the way we are going to be for the rest of our lives
2 My life as I have known it is over
3 There is nothing the medical field can do for me
4 No body cares
5 I am basically useless
6 I could end it all and it wouldn't make a difference
1 Stop thinking that there is a magic pill that will fix all of this.
2 It is not the fault of others, doctors, surgeons, etc that I am in the pain I am today.
3 Doctors dont care about me.
4 My family, my spouse will give up on me
5 I will never be the same
- We can control our situation, we can manage our pain, we can learn to deal with our pain.
- We NEED to stop focusing in on what we can no longer do, instead we need to put our efforts into figuring out how much more we can do.
- We NEED to stay positive. If we give up, we might as well be sentencing ourselves for a life of misery.
- We NEED to be STRONG. So when those roller coaster rides are on the downside, we can handle it.
- We NEED to have FAITH. That means in whichever way that takes you. It could be in your spouse, your doctor, your therapist, your religion. Whatever is the driving force to keep you on top.
- We MUST NEVER NEVER GIVE UP. Sure, we have had some tough times and will probably have some tougher ones up ahead. But that can not allow ourselves to throw in the towel. No matter what we are faced with deal with it and make the best of it.
There is a simple phrase that really says it all
MAKE LEMONADE OUT OF LEMONS
Ron DiLauro Spine-Health System Administrator I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences