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How Strong are We?

dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 9,839
edited 06/11/2012 - 9:01 AM in Depression and Coping
Watching and reading so many posts from different members over the years, I get a sense of various problems, situations and solutions.

I think one of the more difficult things to read are those posts that come from people who have been here a little while, understand the site, see how members interact and feel somewhat hopeless.

Hope is always there.

But really how strong are we? Are we strong enough not only to deal with our own physical and emotional problems, but are we strong enough to keep our families/friends intact.

I have stated over the years, that having as supportive family is so very important in getting through all the problems we have to deal with.

But, I am going to take a little curve here.

When we are alone, the only one we have to worry about and deal with is ourselves. So, at times our decisions will ont impact anyone. Good or bad, we are the only ones that are effected.

But being in a family, anything we do will have an impact on that group. So, if we were to miss a physical therapy session, take more pain medications then we should, not adhere to our restrictions... Who pays the price? Probably initially we do, but in the long run, our loved ones pay a higher price.

So, is it easier to be strong when its just you? OR
Do we need more strength to work in our family environment?

Strength is something that we can not give one another, its not something you can buy or inherit. It doesnt matter how old we are or how young.

Strength comes from something inside of us that allows us to be the best we can be and deal with it all
Ron DiLauro Spine-Health System Administrator
I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences
You can email me at: rdilauro@veritashealth.com


  • chronic back pain is my kryptonite it would seem. But this question really has no easy answer. The horrible guilt when you are with someone saps your strength and the terrible lonliness when you are alone does the same so for me I dont have an answer. But for my kid ( godchild ) I could have been strong forever, but when her mom grad. and they got a place and godchild doing great I did not need to be strong for her anymore.
    Herniated T6-7, multiple herniations in cervical, tears in T5-T8. Stenois at levels and smorls nodes from thoracic thru lumbar
  • SavageSavage United StatesPosts: 5,427
    ...chronic pain is more difficult for our loved ones.

    Sometimes my pain has me unable to focus on anyone or anything except my trying to keep pain level tolerable.

    When I feel better, I try to be normal.

    My people get confused as to why I am different day to day..or moment to moment. My explainations not ususally understood or good enough for them. Most response is...if sometimes is better, do that everyday. I just sigh! :)

    I have tried to like protect my people and not let them see worse days...then some say I should not take their choice to care for or about me away from them.

    So now in relationships more deeply, but keep communication open and more honest on my part with my understanding they need to take care of themselves, too.

    Quite the balancing act... but thank God for family and all our people who even try to understand. :)
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