I'm new here and have some questions. I will give you a run-down on my problem to start off with though.
I'm a 27 year old female & I have chronic neck pain (and headaches brought on by this) - I've had it for about the last ten years. I can't tell you for certain when it started, or why, cause I don't really know. I wonder if I've had it longer than ten years cause honestly I don't have a clue what it feels like to not have a painful neck.
If I'm guessing though, I think it may have originally been triggered by breast development - my mum for some reason didn't think there was any need for her teenage daughter with a large bust to be properly fitted. So I never had a bra fitting until a few years ago & I think this is what initially triggered the problem. It's just got worse and worse, even since being fitted it hasn't improved.
I haven't been able to get an exact diagnosis, which is one of my questions - how did you go about doing that? How did you get medical professionals to listen to you? Often they make me feel like I'm just being pathetic, or that I should just go home & take a paracetamol. Or they don't know and make up some stupid diagnosis like carpal tunnel.
I just want to know exactly what is wrong with me and have someone work with me to manage it. I feel like I've just been brushed off. I've had an xray & MRI that came back clear. Doctors have prescribed me anti-inflammatories (without even knowing what is really wrong with me) which I can't take as every single one I have tried caused me bowel problems.
I've tried chiro, osteo, remedial & sports massage, physio and seen a spinal surgeon. Nothing really helped, and the spinal surgeon didn't have a clue what was wrong with me but offered to do surgery anyway. Needless to say my response was 'do surgery where?' Given he didn't know what is wrong with me, how can he know where the surgery needs to be done? So that didn't happen, obviously.
I'm currently going to physio but it's not really helping & I'm about to max out my private health insurance and therefore won't be able to afford to go too many more times. I can't even do the exercises he wants me to do because they give me a headache/exacerbate the headache I already have. I spend my life dosed up on over-the-counter anti-inflammatories (which I can take without bowel problems as they are not as strong) but I don't like taking them all day every day.
It's partially postural & I am working on this, but my other question is around how do I do things that need to be done in life where I can't really 'sit perfectly' etc? Ie, ironing, vacuming, weeding the garden etc? I just had to give up on the garden for today because it gave me a splitting headache and my neck is so sore I can hardly move. But we just bought a house and we want the yard to look nice, so I don't want to just leave it.
I'm getting really depressed about this. I just don't know how to manage my pain. Hubby & I want to start a family soon but I can't even imagine how much pain I'm going to be in when I'm carrying a baby around, so that in itself is making me really scared of having kids. I tend to get so angry about my pain, I don't want to take it out on the kids.
Sorry about the epic post, I just don't really have anyone to talk to who actually understands.