Each on of these mindsets play major roles in determining what road we will take in the future
This has to be most dangerous of all mindsets. The Spinal problem is with us, we may or may not have had surgery. But we have been told by our doctors what we should and should not do. There are clear actions that we should not do , if we ever have hopes in seeing better days. If we do not believe any of this, or we do not believe what they doctors have told us and we only believe we are ok , then we could be heading down a very dangerous path.
- Ignoring what the doctors told us
- Ignoring the limitations or restrictions
- Doing more than we should
- Forget about life styles when it comes to drink and food.
- Ignore everyone warnings or attempts to help
- "I am fine, there is nothing wrong with me"
REFUSING TO ACCEPT
I've seen this with so many different members walking different lifestyles. It may be someone who was an active sports person, was a dancer, was a fireman and much more. They were basically at the top of their game, feeling great and could do just about anything. Then for what ever reason, they developed a spinal situation that changes their immediate life style. This could require surgery or perhaps not, but there will be a new set of rules to live by. Changes are in order, adjustments must be made. Many feeling this way, can go over to the Denial side, but some stay stuck in this mode.
They refuse to accept their problems., they know they have them, they completely understand them, but they look in the mirror and say, this is real, there is nothing I can do.
Many of these folks go looking for that "Miracle cure" The one shot, one pill that will make them better. They might also go from doctor to doctor looking for one of them that will "Fix them", They come up with all sorts of various alignments (some real, some not so real) in attempts to justify or rationalize their condition.
One of the dangers in this mode, is that you may never move ahead, you may never get better and you may be
"Stuck" in this mode for a very long time if not longer.
We could a person of any background and activity. A Ice Hockey player, A avid skier, Skydiving, Horse Trainer, Computer Programmer, Nurse, Administrative Assistance, etc...
Just as with the two modes above, when the spinal problem hits it hits hard and we really have to look at everything.
Perhaps for a while we could be in the Denial, or Refusing to accept mode, but we quickly realize by doing that we are not helping ourselves and we in fact could be sentencing ourselves for something we would never want.
Ok, we have this spinal condition, minor, medium to very severe. Again, could be with or without any surgery.
But one common thing, is what our doctors have told us. Its the RR&L - Rules, Restrictions and Limitations.
We have a clear list of actions we should or should not be doing. So there is no guess work here. If we dont follow a path, then we will probably have a flare up. If we do follow a path, does that mean we will be painfree? No, we may never be painfrree.
But once we know what we have, we can start to learn the many ways in dealing and managing with it.
Each of us are individuals, so it would be impossible to list the different things we could do to accomplish that.
Use your imagination, think about what is so really important to you, think of a goal and then start putting a plan in place to reach that, climb over all the obstacles in getting there. But of course, while climbing, stay within the LL&R
Is this a guarantee to a better life? No, there are no guarantees in any of this. But by accepting our situations, we have put ourselves in a positive and can-do approach. With that as our weapons, there isnt much would should not be able to do.
Ron DiLauro Spine-Health System Administrator I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences