Hi, I'm new to this group, but have been dealing with back pain for 5 years. This past December I herniated my L5S1. The first week, my husband was very concerned and caring but as time goes on, he seems to think I should be better already!! The worst symptom I have (besides pain) is numbness on the right side of my right leg down to my last 3 toes. I can't drive and walking is a chore. This is now going on 5 weeks and there is stress in our marriage, mostly because of the lack of sex. He has lost his compassion to my situation, has stopped showing any affection and it seems we are just going through the motions of every day life. I feel that he thinks my pain is not that bad and that I can do everything like I used to before. I am very frustrated as this is how it always goes. As I said, I have been dealing with a bad back for 5 years but this is the worst I have been. Surgery is not off the table yet as my neurosurgeon and I are waiting to see if i will get feeling back on my own. If I have to have surgery, I will be on my own. I know this, I feel our situation will not change, so why stay together?? I understand that sex is a big part of marriage. I miss it too, but why does he have to treat me like s**t and make me feel like what happened is my fault? I just want to feel loved...always, not only when our marriage is stable and I don't feel that anymore.