Every once in a while I have conversations with other people regarding chronic and acute pain. Being a moderator here, I have read thousands of threads/posts about various problems, pain, failed marriages, bad relationships, bad doctors, etc.
Many times those conversations come down to identifying what is normal
Most of you know, that in my retired life, I work as a Wine consultant at a local Wine Shop. I started this back in the late 1960's then joined IBM in 1974. I retired in 2009, but along the way, I still keep close contacts with wine.
The other day, a saleswoman came to visit the store. She was from Italy and we chatted about all the different wines her company is providing. We set up an appointment so we could taste all of her wines. We exchanged some emails to coordinate everything and by doing so, I found out see was trained in therapeutic massage. One thing lead to another and I talked to her about my medication situation, etc.
She came back to do the wine tasting. She asked me if I was up to it considering the amount of medications I am on.
For me, I do not need to start any medications until late afternoon and then through the night. I told her I was fine.
I was Normal.
She looked at me and said Normal - describe that What she was getting out is that our normal is so different from everyone's normal. That hit me. I guess I've spent most of my life in pain, so to me this is normal. There are bad days and good days, but pain is normal.
How does that sit with everyone? I know people like Jon (terror8396), liz (liz) tamtam (tam) alex (alexhurting) sandi (sandi)
to name only a few that understands whats OUR Normal vs the Other Worlds Normal. The best part is folks like that know how to deal with our normality.
In the words of Sir-Alex -- Get-ir-done (or something like that)
Ron DiLauro Spine-Health System Administrator I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences