I am a 24 year-old female with a degenerative herniated disc at L5/S1. I just want to know whether other ladies out there have had similarly bad experiences with male doctors and, if so, what you did about it.
I started getting treated for greater tronchanteric bursitis and sacroiliitis in the fall of 2009. In May of 2010, after lots of tests and physical therapy, I was finally diagnosed with a herniated lumbar disc. The prednisone stepdown pack they put me on in the fall made me gain some weight, which had me up around 158. I am 5'10" so this was heavier than I feel confident being, but very much still a healthy weight. That spring, I had one GP tell me not to ever gain any more weight, for the sake of my back. (Mind you, I haven't had kids yet.) I also had a creepy rheumatologist "accidentally" tear my paper robe and some DO or something at an orthopedic practice say it was a good thing I wasn't married because my husband "would hate [me]," presumably because of the impact of my injury on my sex life.
Since I was in college when I got hurt, I started seeing a pain doc at my school's teaching hospital. She's great, but the interns and residents stare at the floor while I'm being prepped because they're not mature enough to handle the completely unsexy context in which they're seeing my derrière. I've even felt that some of the male residents performing the procedures are overly rough because they're afraid it will be sexual somehow if they're gentle. Maybe someone out there is into needle play, but it sure as hell ain't me.
So today I had a transforaminal ESI and I drew a male resident. It's winter in Chicago (read: no one other than my boyfriend can see my body under all these layers) and I recently switched birth control prescriptions and my athletic figure suddenly turned into an hourglass, so I weigh a little more because of the additions to my bust line and hip area, but I'm still only about 150. What does Resident Evil tell me? "You really need to strengthen your core." Even with the added curves and winter insulation, I have a flat stomach with two clearly defined ab columns. This is after he spends a good 10 minutes talking about Jessica Simpson's body to one of the nurses and how she looked sooooo good as Daisy Duke, but then got chunky and now he doesn't like her anymore.
I am so tired of it being said and insinuated that my back hurts because of the rest of my (healthy) body. It hurts because of the damn herniated disc! So, ladies, any similar experiences or advice to share? Gentlemen (and only *gentlemen* need reply), do your back docs make offensive comments about your weight or how your back would ruin your love life? To be honest, I'd be very surprised to learn that doctors make these comments to men in good shape.