My answer is always Yes
Dealing with chronic pain is never easy. It is probably harder on those that are first experiening this situation.
Some times I read a post about a person that just started to have pain, never before, and only for a couple of weeks.
I shake my head at those and honestly feel for them, because they have no clue as to what chronic pain is really all about.
Pain, that is always a subjective topic and as such, i dont want to bring it into this thread. One person's pain may be a laughter for someone else.
When you start to deal with chronic pain and have to realize that every day you will be dealing with this, there is a certain amount of depression that starts to sink in. I remember all so well when I first started to have back problems and when I first had my lumbar surgeries, that this was only going to be a small adjustment in my life style.
Little did I realize! As time goes on and you wake up each morning in pain, go through each day with some sort of pain, and then end the night with another source of pain. And this scenario is not for just a couple of days or weeks, but much longer. You understand, you are living with chronic pain.
Living with that, its understood that certain activities in your life will have to be eliminated or remodeled.
That has its toll. I will be honest and tell everyone that I have had periods sobbing and the worst pity-party you could imagine. In fact I invited al my spinal problems to show up at once..
Seriously, it does wear you down. You can be stoic and show the happy face all the time. But I aure that alone, with no one to see you, those unhappy negative feelings start to come out.
Dont hold back those emotions, let it all come out. I can not tell you how many times I have been by myself, on the computer (like now) or just walking outside (likeI just did), those negative feelings surface. They can really put you down
Its easy to understand at that point why depression starts to sink in. You sit back , look around and then start to see how others are doing and you begin to cry. Crying is not a weak sign. Unfortunately, today we have been brought up saying that crying is a weakness., so we dont cry.
Please , CRY, WEEP, get things out of your system. Get depressed feeling that you are the one who has been targeted with all of this. But then come back and understand where you are.
Depression and Crying is fine for those living in chronic pain. But never allowe those feelings to get the most of you at any time. We all have so much to e thankful for. And honestly, if you can come here, read the posts, respond, you a re light years ahead of many others.
Ron DiLauro Spine-Health System Administrator I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences