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Husband is no longer interested in SEX after Spinal Surgery
My husband had neck surgery about 8 years ago and since that time he no longer is interested in having sex with me.. We actually went from having sex 5 or more times a week to 2 times a year and the attempts are not great.. He has tried Viagra only at my insistence and still no desire... He doesn't even pretend to want to have sex and shows no concern as if it is no big deal.. He has totally tried to make me gain weight and encourages me to continue to get bigger and bigger as if to say since he is no longer interested in me and he wants to make sure no one else is either.. He is constantly trying to find ways to keep me from going out of the house. He doesn't want me around others especially if there are going to be other males around. I am a very young 45 year old who has raised her kids and was now looking forward to being able to experience more sexual freedom with my husband.. however, he now has taken a job so that he can stay out of town during the week and when he comes home he sleeps in another room.. he blames this on me and says he can't sleep with me for various reasons however, I think he is either afraid to sleep with me because I MIGHT want to have sex or because he just doesn't want to be reminded he can't or doesn't want to have sex...