I just wanted to express my appreciation for the forums available on this website for dealing with chronic pain and the resulting depression one feels. It is good to know that my experiences with chronic pain, surgery and depression can be validated, not trivialized. There have been many times I've tried talking to family/friends about what I go through - both physically and emotionally - and have received no emotional support. For example, when I told my father about my episodes of crying because of feeling overwhelmed his response to me was that I was 'better' than that. In other words I was too big to be crying. As for my mother I had to keep repeating the same thing over and over because she just wasn't listening to me. I got tired of repeating myself so much and just resorted to what I've done all while I was growing up and that's been to bottle up my feelings inside which isn't good. Bottling up ones feelings can only exacerbate ones pain as well as contribute to other somatic problems; I know from personal experience.Then there have been others who have asked the perfunctory question regarding how I'm doing only for me to later realize they didn't hear a word I said. I say this because IF they had listened to me express how I was doing, or feeling, their response would NOT have been "Oh! That's nice" or something else to minimize my feelings. This is a good outlet for me as there have been times recently when I didn't want to eat or if I felt hungry I didn't have the energy to prepare a healthy meal for myself and I've been sleeping a bit longer than usual. I know it's my response to feeling overwhelmed right now.Thank you for these forums.