HI I'm having L4-S1 fusion with cages and rods in two weeks. I was hit from behind in a bad car accident six months ago and have been in severe pain ever since. My NS said my spine is unstable, I have two bulging discs, and nerves are crushed in between vertebrae. I worked two full time jobs for five years before this and was working very hard to get a journeymans license in plumbing. I'm a single Mom, mid 40s, with grown kids and I was within months of being able to change my job and life for the better. Now I m unable to do the work I love and stuck holding onto a min wage job I can t stand for the insurance. If all goes well with surgery, how likely will I be able to do an active outdoor job ? That s all I ve ever wanted to do was some kind of trade or construction . And, I m wondering how much I'll be able to bend and move in a year with the rods ? The NS said he s going to attach them to top of my tailbone . Will I have any movement there in lower back at all ? Does it look funny when you walk or bend ? I was just learning to salsa dance, I love to kayak, hike on long trips, ride four wheelers, and I drive a lifted jeep . Is all of that gone ??? I feel like all of my dreams and things I ve worked so hard for are slipping away. I would love to ask other women about sex after surgery but need to know if I can or if there is another thread or forum for that ? I m so glad I found this site and thank you in advance for any help or advice .