This is a topic that we all know inside comes up but we dont always want to talk about it.
I am not going to talk about anyone else or what it could be, instead I will tell you about myself.
The chronic pain has definitely lowered my sexual desires. Emotional, I think about it and think there should not be any problem, but in reality there is. Physical, am I capable? Yes, I believe so, but........
Now add all the medications I am taking on a daily basis. There is probably enough there to make anyone feel like a holy person that demands celibacy.
Put it all together and it really doesnt come out with a state of intimacy for my wife. Not because I dont care or love my wife.
So, instead, we hug, hold each other, sit on a couch just touching each others hand. That shows tons of love foe one another.
I love my wife and I am saddened that right now I can not be the man that society thinks I should be. I can only be who I am .but that never stops me from loving my wife in every way I can. I only wish I could do more. I may be the one dealing with chronic pain, but a day doesnt go bye that I dont understand and realize that her sacrifices are much more than my own.
I know there are men and women members who understand what I am saying and are also dealing with the impact it has our their lives. We cant fix each other, but it does help to talk about it. So please don't be afraid or embarrassed to post here and talk about your intimate live.
Ron DiLauro Spine-Health System Administrator I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences