What a subject for Mothers day but I need advice.
I am currently in a horrible place due to becoming tolerant
to my meds, so my PC is taking me off of them.
Not in the condition to deal with this right now but have to and
just want to know how you would handle this.
Some of you know that my husband is not supportive of me,
and now wants me to turn around and be supportive of his
child who is a heroin addict.
My husband has never dealt with drug issues before me and
his girl which are two different things totally. My husband thinks
to help is to keep bailing her out. We bailed her out of jail for
selling which I found out later was at a elementary school.
Then she made the usual promises never again to her Dad.
She fled her court date and was finally caught put in jail
and during this period sucked the money out of us. Once
released she continued on using and her brother called
to ask me for $20,000. for re-hab I refused. My husband never
heard about it but also his son has never talked to me since.
Then two years ago his daughter came here to clean her life up.
I agreed based on the condition she get a job, be tested every month,
clean up after herself and see a doctor for withdraws. She
said I can't get a job unless I have a car and I told her the bus
stops just down a few blocks from our house. She said she could
go cold turkey but I told her I was not going to deal with that.
Guess what she was on a plane the next morning and flew back
to her home. My husband said that was it no more. Yeah right
here we are again, he is just so blind. I get it but there comes a
time and I just don't think he can say no.
Then just 3 months ago his daughter called and said we need
money again for re-hab which my husband took the money out of
his Grandfathers trust. I was furious and he told me it was his money
not part of our earned income.
The thing is she called him last night and I know it was to either
get money or come here. I have had enough I refuse to let her
into my life, that may sound cruel but I am 66 and have had
this stuff my whole life. I cannot imagine dealing with her with
what I am going through right now. My husband talks like she
has seen the light but how many times do you give them?
Please give me some advice on this. It may be the straw that
breaks the camels back.
This was a hard post for me I am in just pain and to think of
dealing with that mess is more than I can handle.
Thanks for being there, I needed to vent.