I've touch on this subject several times over the year, but I still feel it is so important to discuss.
I dont think I need to elaborate on the physical pain that spinal patients need to cope with. We all have our various set of treatments that hopefully make every day a little easier to get by.
But our emotional pain. Realizing
- We cant do the things we did before
- Its hard to socialize when all of our friends do not have any medical condition
- What is in store down the road.
- Will I have to deal with this pain forever
- I have young children and I cant play with them
- Will I be able to have children down the road
- I might lose my job if I stay out of work any longer
That list goes on and on and its impossible to list them all I am sure each of us have more specific items that we need to deal with.
BUT what about our loved ones, spouses, significant others, family members, etc They may not understand the physical pain we are in, but they see the end results. They see the mood swings, they see the crying, they see all the pain medications we take, they see we cant do everything what we want to do. They see all of that, but do they really understand it?
They may look at the situation as if they are being robbed. Lets say , they love to horseback ride, ride a motorcycle, or play golf. We can't, so in ways they are being deprived of what they like to do.. But they do not have any pain
medications to help with that. Many times they have to suffer in silence, but eventually that silence unravels itself and becomes aroar
How can we avoid all of this? Its difficult, in fact very difficult. We need to have effective communications with those we love. And even then, there will be times when that breaks down.
We expect the understanding of our loved ones to help us with our pain and medical situation. But lets also look
at the impacts all of this has on our loved ones. They suffer also, not the physical pain we have, but their emotional pain may in fact be even more difficult than ours.Communicate