I haven't posted here for a long time but need some advice. I am 28 and nearly 5 weeks post revision decompression surgery at L5/S1. I had surgery 4 years ago without much help but this one seems to have taken most of the back and left leg pain although I still have a lot of numbness. I am off work for 2 more weeks and concentrating on my physio and now my hubby is experiencing very bad symptoms of the same thing
I am trying to be as supportive of him as I can as I know how hard it is, but I am also very frustrated as I had been suffering for 6 long years before I was even offered an MRI. I know how difficult it is to be in pain and have to limit activities, be sick from work etc but he doesn't seem to take any of my advice. He is currently on painkillers from the doctor and awaiting physio. Apparently his doctor said they may have to go down the surgery route which I think hubby is clinging on to now. He doesn't seem to understand that he has to try all other options before surgery and wont even try to do some basic physio I have given him for fear of doing more damage.
I don't pretend to be an expert, but I do have a lot of experience now and just wish he would try and improve things instead of just feeling sorry for himself (God I sound horrible!). I am finding myself being angry as I am still trying to recover from my own op and also look after and sympathise with him! We are due to move house soon and just carrying out simple household chores seems so difficult for us both, I am terrified for our future if we are both going to be suffering.
Sorry about my rant but wondered if anyone else has been in the same situation or could offer me advice on how to be more empathetic towards him and also not over-do it myself.
Thanks for reading