My husband is 24 years old, has debilitating back pain, and often confesses that he would rather die or lose function than live on like this. He has been diagnosed with spinal stenosis and spondylolisthesis. It hurts me so much to see him in so much pain, and to know that I cannot help him in any way except for to be there for him. It makes me feel bad when I want to go do things, but he simply doesn't want to or can't because the pain is unbearable. He is not sure who can help him, as it seems like every physician he has ever gone to see has not cared about his condition, and shrugged it off in a way that truly pains him and breeds a mistrust of doctors. Unfortunately, he started experiencing this pain a couple years into our relationship, and since then it has been a roller coaster ride of appointments, unhelpful treatments, rude doctors, and financial hardship. He is so angry at his problems, and sometimes he takes it out on me and my family, which makes things even more difficult, although I try very hard to understand what he is going through. He also has issues with his teeth, expensive ones that we cannot fix at the moment, which just adds to his already debilitating pain. He hardly ever sleeps, and when he does it's a light, restless, painful sleep. It is difficult for him to eat because of the pain caused by his teeth. What do you do when you're in so much pain, non-stop, all the time, without the resources to treat it? I work so much to support us, it is difficult for me to coordinate his care, and he despises going to the doctor and doesn't take charge of his own treatment. I honestly don't know what to do about it sometimes. He is skeptical that any treatment will help him, and doesn't want surgery at all; he says he thinks he will die before he is thirty, either because of his problems or by suicide because he can't take the pain any longer. On top of that, navigating a disability suit is something I don't have time for and that we can't really afford, plus we don't think he would get approved for it anyway, as we have read that it is difficult to get approved for. So he just sits at home, in pain, and alone. This has bred depression and anxiety disorders in him which just make things worse (he already had issues with this before the pain, they are FAR worse now). He was in the foster care system/a run away for most of his life - in fact, he believes that a back injury that occurred in foster care and went untreated is the cause of his pain and misery now. We are expecting our first child in December, and I am so scared that it will be too much for him... I just needed to get that all off my chest. I don't know what to do, and any advice would be appreciated.