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Last night my partner called me a liar..

... not about being in pain but about how much and said that it wasn't the reason I didn't want to go out, it was just that I was in a mood. I've obviously become so good at masking the pain that he didn't believe I was in the middle of a flare up caused by doing too much width him over the previous couple of days. I'm so hurt and upset.


  • I'm sorry. I am in the midst of one myself , for the last several days, and I also have gotten too good at being able to mask it most of the time......Sometimes that backfires on us.
    I do think that a discussion with your partner about their calling you a liar is in order. That is never necessary nor is it appropriate for someone who loves you to do.
  • dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 9,842
    edited 09/09/2014 - 5:43 AM
    We want to mask our pain because we don't want everyone else to know how we feel at the moment. That avoids, questions, stories, how they fixed it, etc.

    If we let our feelings out, then people may start to think we are whiners, just have pity parties, not really feel that bad but what the sympathy

    There is a balance between the two. Gosh knows I have no clue on how to make that happen all the time! If anything, I let my wife know more about how I feel on a regular basis, but there are still times I masked that also

    I dont know if there is a right or wrong answer here
    Ron DiLauro Spine-Health System Administrator
    I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences
    You can email me at: rdilauro@veritashealth.com
  • Thank you both. Ron, you hit the nail on the head regarding striking the balance. We've sorted it for the moment - hopefully I'll be better prepared for if it happens again.
  • SherrieSweetsSherrieSweets Posts: 10
    edited 09/17/2014 - 8:45 PM
    How hurtful. I simply cannot abide cruel name calling... Ratchel fratchen!!!!!

    Post edited to remove inappropriate language...Liz spine-health moderator.. Please read the Forum rules

    Sherrie Sweets
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