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Suicide - support resources

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edited 06/11/2012 - 8:18 AM in Depression and Coping
By Bruce (copy-paste from old site)

Suicide is an action that some of us may consider or have considered, or we might know someone who is considering this. I hope that people don?t think that this topic should be ?taboo? here, as it has been a reality for some members. I must admit that I have no experience whatsoever in dealing with suicide, either from feeling suicidal or helping others who may be. However, there is a vast amount of information on the internet, and support groups available to assist us all in this regard. I have listed some of these resources below.

PLEASE, if any of you are every thinking suicidal thoughts, please refer to these resources and reach out for help.

National Suicide Helpline 1 800 784 2433 (USA only)

If any of you are in a position of wanting/needing to help someone who may be suicidal, please go to the following links and read the article ?What can I do to help someone who is suicidal?? http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/whattodo.htm

Internet resources:

The national association for suicide professionals. The web site contains lists of crisis centers/hotlines, support groups, and many other helpful resources ...

Suicide Helpline. Suicide Resources on the Internet. ... Additional Web resources online are available for depression and suicide. ...

The Suicide Prevention Resource Center (SPRC) provides prevention support, training, and materials to strengthen suicide prevention efforts. ...

GriefNet provides online support those dealing with grief and loss issues on either a personal or professional level. GriefNet's services include resource ... (this site seems to have some useful links to other suicde resources)

When pain exceeds pain-coping resources, suicidal feelings are the result. Suicide is neither wrong nor right; it is not a defect of character; ...

A rest stop from depression and thoughts of suicide. Articles help bipolar disorder, PTSD, suicidal thoughts, and major depression.

I found the www.have-a-heart.com/ particularly useful for me to understand depression and suicide.

Another good site?? http://www.befrienders.org/

Samatitans http://www.samaritans.org/
find your local branch : http://www.samaritans.org/talk_to_someo … ranch.aspx

We don’t know when you might need us. That’s why we’re open 24 hours a day. We offer our service by telephone, email, letter and face to face in most of our branches.

Health NHS direct (mental health/suicide)
0845 46 47 (local rate)
Website: http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/
Health NHS direct (mental health/suicide)
0845 46 47 (local rate)
Website: http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/


Suicide helpline's Norther Ireland -wide launch
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/nort … 449870.stm

A free 24-hour counselling helpline aimed at people with suicidal feelings or depression has been launched across Northern Ireland.

A free 24-hour counselling helpline aimed at people with suicidal feelings or depression has been launched across Northern Ireland.

'Lifeline' - 0808 808 8000 - is designed to be there for people in a emotional crisis when other services are unavailable.


provide supportline to problems and suicide issue


Agencies which provide support and information

•SupportLine Telephone Helpline: 020 8554 9004, email info@supportline.org.uk or write to SupportLine at PO Box 1596, Ilford, Essex IG1 3FW - Provides emotional support and details of support groups, helplines, agencies and counsellors throughout the UK

•Premier Lifeline: 0845 345 0707, email lifeline@premier.org.uk, www.premier.org.uk/lifeline - Helpline providing a listening service, information, emotional and spiritual support from a Christian perspective

•Samaritans: 0845 790 9090 (1850 60 90 90 Rep. Of Ireland), email jo@samaritans.org, www.samaritans.org - 24 hr helpline offering emotional support for people who are experiencing feelings of distress or despair, including those which may lead to suicide

•Youth to Youth: 020 8896 3675, www.youth2youth.co.uk - Help and support for young people up to 19 years

•www.theblackdog.net - Supportive site for men who suffer from depression and/or suicidal thoughts.

•www.touchingminds.org - Peer support for those who suffer from mood disorders.

Support for Europe

Telefonseelsorge Notruf
Tel: (00 43) 142
Services: Telephone and Email
Website: http://www.telefonseelsorge.at

Telephone support
Tel: 106
Website: http://www.tele-onthaal.be

Tel: 107
Website: http://www.tele-accueil.be

Suicide prevention
De Zelfmoordlijn Centrum ter Preventie van Zelfmoord vzw (the Flemisch Suicide Prevention Center),
Arteveldestraat 142
Tel: (0032) (0)2/649 95 55- Open 24 hours a day
Services by: Telephone
Website: www.zelfmoordpreventie.be
most speak luxenburger, german, english and french

Postbox 1157
DK - 1010
Tel: 70 201 201
Services by: Telephone
Website: http://www.livslinien.dk


Suicide Ecoute
Tel: 01 45 39 4000
Services by: Telephone
Website: http://suicide.ecoute.free.fr

SOS Help (English Speaking Service)
Boite Postale 43,
Boulogne, Cedex 92101
Tel: 01 46 21 46 46
Services by: Telephone (3-11pm)
Website: www.soshelpline.org

Telefonseelsorge Deutschland
Tel: 0800 1110 111 / 0800 1110 222


Regionale Hilfe
Berlin: http://www.berliner-krisendienst.de/
Kassel: http://www.beratung-in-krisen.de/
Münster: http://www.muenster.org/krisenhilfe/

Andere Information


South Africa suicide help contact the SADAG
Contact us
Zane Wilson

For counselling queries e-mail: zane1@hargray.com

To contact a counsellor between 8am-8pm Monday to Sunday,
call: (011) 262-6396
For a suicidal Emergency contact us on 0800 567 567


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For military, ex-military, veterans here’s a list of helping links dedicated to YOU


Military Suicide Risk Assessment -
Download this screening tool, in PDF format.

Suicide Risk Questionnaire - http://www.stopasuicide.org/downloads/Sites/Docs/StopASuicide_SuicideRiskQuestionnaire_Military.pdf
Offers this tool, in PDF format, designed for the Military and their family members.

Military Suicide Research Program - http://www.nhrc.navy.mil/programs/donsir/
Offers that over the past decade, the yearly suicide rate within the Navy has varied from 9 to 16 cases per 100,000 active-duty members.

When a Service Member May Be at Risk of Committing Suicide - http://www.militaryonesource.com/skins/MOS/display.aspx?mode=user&action=material&ModuleID=ae74eaa3-d1b6-4dbd-b23e-354880172094&ObjectID=7c395a46-837f-4243-9b27-e56a4b9896bb&IssueID=ed81a813-c7cc-4aa3-9cac-c37ec8364d2b&CatID=0e76431d-868a-44dc-8305-e5cca1

Learn about warning signs and why a service member may not seek help.
Preventing Suicide Network -

Notes that Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death in the US Military, after unintentional injury deaths and disease and illness. Read for details.

What to do to help as Military Personnel - http://www.preventingsuicide.com/textonly/militarypersonnelwtdtxt.asp
Read this guide prepared by the Preventing Suicide Network.

Trends in suicide rates among military conscripts - http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=PubMed&list_uids=1414419&dopt=Abstract
Offers an abstract of a study analyzing the trends in suicide rates among conscripts in Finland and comparing them with suicide rates in men of the same age in the general population

MyHoohah4Health - Suicide Prevention - http://www.hooah4health.com/mind/suicideprev/suicideprevention.htm
Read about the Army's suicide prevention plan that has been implemented.

American Journal of Psychiatry, The - Suicide Among Regular-Duty Military Personnel - http://ajp.psychiatryonline.org/cgi/content/abstract/162/9/1688
Read this retrospective case-control study of occupation-specific risk factors for workplace suicide.

Air Force Suicide Prevention Program - http://afspp.afms.mil/idc/groups/public/documents/webcontent/knowledgejunction.hcst?functionalarea=AFSuicidePreventionPrgm&doctype=subpage&docname=CTB_018094&incbanner=0
Offers resources and tools to members of the Air Force community to help reduce suicides.

About - Army Suicide Rate in Combat Zones Elevated - http://usmilitary.about.com/cs/terrorism/a/arsuicide.htm
Read a review about this report that follows the Army's first mental health survey ever conducted in a combat zone.
Checklist for Suicide Prevention - http://integrator.hanscom.af.mil/2007/A … cklist.pdf
In PDF format, this resource offers Wingmen suggestions for helping airmen with a guide to better communication.

CBS News - Army Analyzes GI Suicide Rate - http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2004/03/25/iraq/main608559.shtml?CMP=ILC-SearchStories
Article discusses the change in suicide rates among army personnel.

SMHAI - Police and Military Suicide - http://suicideandmentalhealthassociationinternational.org/libpolmil.html
Suicide and Mental Health Association International shares a selection of resources devoted to this topic.

Military.com - Suicide Report Makes Army Improve - http://www.military.com/NewsContent/0,13319,FL_improve_032904,00.html Offers an article about what the Military is doing to combat suicide in the forces.

Suicide Prevention Among Active Duty Air Force Personnel - http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/mm4846a1.htm
Browse to see changes in suicide rates between 1990 and 1999.

Coast Guard Suicide Prevention Program - http://www.uscg.mil/hq/g-w/g-wk/wkw/EAP/suicide_prevention.htm Discover the US Coast Guard's suicide prevention initiative.

Suicide and the Military Justice System - http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=PubMed&list_uids=1440748&dopt=Abstract
Read the abstract of this paper that reveals that there are military policies that direct the formation of active suicide prevention programs.

Declaring War on Suicide - http://www.tradoc.army.mil/chaplain/documents/Declaring War On Suicide.pdf
Download this document, in PDF format, that describes the U.S. Army's four-prong suicide prevention camapign.
Best Practices Initiatives - http://phs.os.dhhs.gov/ophs/BestPractice/usaf.htm
Read this resource entitled, "Air Force Suicide Prevention Program: A Population-based, Community Approach."

Common Dreams - Troops in Iraq on Suicide Watch - http://www.commondreams.org/headlines04/0411-03.htm
Browse to read this 2004 article, published by the Toronto Star and written by Lynda Hurst.
Suicide Prevention Resource Manual - http://hooah4health.com/toolbox/suicide/default.htm Browse to discover this resource that outlines an integrated and comprehensive approach for the Army Leadership as they promote help seeking behavior throughout The Army family.

Suicide Prevention - http://www.au.af.mil/au/aul/bibs/suicots3.htm Discover this Australian OTS Current Military Topic compiled by Ann Webb.

Military Suicide Research Program - Publications - http://www.nhrc.navy.mil/programs/donsir/publications.html Browse this selection of publications related to suicide among Navy personnel.

Forces-Helpline.com - http://www.forces-helpline.com/
Provided by ex-forces personnel to help address any bully or bullying issues one may be experiencing or have experienced whilst serving in the Navy, Army or Royal Air Force.

USA CHPPM - Suicide Prevention - http://chppm-www.apgea.army.mil/dhpw/Readiness/suicide.aspx
Become familiar with this resource offered by the US Army Center for Health

Promotion and Preventive Medicine.
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder - PTSD - http://www.iraqwarveterans.org/ptsd.htm Browse to become familiar with this resource developed by the Iraq War Veterans Organization.

Baltimore Sun, The - Army's Suicide Rate has Outside Experts Alarmed - http://www.commondreams.org/headlines03/1230-01.htm
Read this article by Michael Martinez that reveals what the army is doing to prevent suicide in the forces.

Air Force Staff Sgt. Angela Pope Speaks Out Against Suicide in the Military - http://www.preventsuicidenow.com/angela-pope-suicide-in-the-military.html Browse to become familiar with this article by Kevin Caruso.

About.com - Veteran's Suicide Prevention Hotline Begins Operation - http://usgovinfo.about.com/b/a/217677.htm Details "The Suicide Prevention Hotline for U.S. Veterans, announced by the Department of Veterans Affairs on July 2, 2007, is now fully operational."

Carl R. Darnall Army Medical Center - http://www.hood-meddac.army.mil/default.asp?page=suicide&vi=n&mnu=0 Notes the military services have vigorous suicide prevention programs designed to protect service members and their families. Read for details.

Navy Environmental Health Center - Suicide Prevention Taking Action Saving Lives - http://www-nehc.med.navy.mil/hp/suicide/index.htm
Learn what the Navy is doing to prevent and reduce suicide amongst its sailors and marines. Browse for contact details.

About - United States Army Basic Training Operating Instructions - http://usmilitary.about.com/library/milinfo/arbasicpol/blsuicide.htm
Find these operating instructions derived from a set of SOPs (Standard Operating Procedures) for a United States Army Infantry Basic Training Battalion.

HillTop Times - Emotional, financial stress can lead to suicide - http://www.hilltoptimes.com/story.asp?edition=278&storyid=7511
Article by Airman 1st Class Clay Murray reports that "Hill has programs in place through the chapel and the life skills support center flight to help someone dealing with thoughts of suicide."

Letter to Airmen: Stress, mental health, and suicide prevention - http://integrator.hanscom.af.mil/2007/August/08092007/08092007-28.htm
Michael W. Wynne, Secretary of the Air force, offers this letter to Air force personnel.

See the suicide prevention checklist.

I have do my best provide help for normal depress-suicide people and military -ex-military people of site. Ptsd from military-war + fisical issue i now too well and too many pple. Sorry take much room for it.

May each find help here or in home land. Sorry cant do more. My haart is with you all.

You can delite-modify-edit-add or else. Info is Info, if help someone live it as is.

p.s. you have military & ex-military on site remmember that ok

Tribute to military and veterans.



  • 2008-05-11 06:38:08

    I have...I dont have... SELFISH REASONS.
    So you took your life, you took the only way out you thought you had. wanna see some of what you leave behind?
    Anger on many different levels, because you didn't call me in your extremity,you did not think some one would care, you did not give me a chance to try.
    you leave behind a bitter memory of you, not some romantic notion of your suffering so bad that you just couldnt take it anymore,and that i would feel sorry for you. i dont and wont, shocking? you know why?
    Becaus now i wont have your smile to brighten my day, I wont have your shoulder to lean on when i grow tired.
    I wont have your laughter when the jikes on me and we can laugh that private laughter that only best of friends share, non judgemental, no hurt intended.
    iIwont have your shoulder to cry on when its all to much, You left me all alone to deal with life.
    I wont hear your words of wonder and excitement when some thing wonderfull happens, i wont have you to share my good news with.
    I wont share any of your ups and downs like a true friend.
    I wont have you around when the day grows long and grey,in the winter of life when friends are all you have left of your life,to remind you of the good times and bad ,shared.
    I wont have your smile.
    I wont have your tears.
    I wont be able to share the intimacys of the heart..ever.
    Iwont sing with a friend on the beach..brown eyed girl,no chorus of sha la la...
    I will have anger coz you didnt call on me.
    I will have been betrayed,by you
    I will have sadness
    I will have guilt
    I will have to carry a burden of guilt...
    Was I blind that i didnt see you struggle,or had apathy,and didnt try to see the agony of life that lay heavily on you, and turned away,hoping you would heal up?
    I didnt try to help when I could...Yes this is a selfish point of view, but what else have i got left, only bitter ashes of memorys and dusty bones, to remind me of a part of me was cut,and all i've left is phantom pain, from a part of me cut away violently.
    And what else of your selfish act, yes selfish,such bitter intonations from a one whole person..
    You left society without your cumulative wisdom of years,
    and kindness
    and hope for another lost soul ,somewhere,somewhen,
    you cut your love off from the world around you that so needs a friend,
    You left family
    You left friends
    You left us all behind, to carry a burden we would'nt have chosen...
    Yes thats selfish, we , some one,, would have shouldered the burden that you couldnt carry anymore...would'nt carry anymore, you could have let us...let me know that it was too much...You would not trust me enough to share.
    No one in some far off place will know the wonder of you,
    you were selfish in your pain,you did'nt want to share, even with those who gladly would.
    Now all thats left is a dark keening hole
    where you used to be,and we,
    those few left behind ..
    try to fill the empty place where you used to be..
    and try to answer these manifold gordian questions.
    and so many others left to ask.
    There is always some one to talk to, your never alone..PERIOD.
    all you got to do is take the first step,tell some one, dont be afraid
    some one wont judge,some one will listen.
    There is some one who has been to the abyss, looked in and smiled at death
    why, because some day,in the natural course of life, they will be set free
    but not yet..
    there is always some one some where thats been where you are and can and will help

  • 2008-06-17 23:22:11

    Ive been fortunate enough to have met some of the most wonderful people in my life.

    Fortunate to have met the very best that a person could hope to be in my eyes, some have fallen by the way,left in the tears and years covered in dust,
    Some i have never seen to know their face.


    I will know them, by their spirit.
    the light they cast, to all about them is a brilliantine clarity,the sun would turn away in shame for trying to match.
    We are all creatures of spirit
    and we, I gravitate like a bird knowing the way south and in life there are pools of light cast out in the darkness
    little stars, those beacons drawing the lucky few to warm themselves in the peace.

    if you look hard, you will see these lights spread like a little galaxy across the sky's and if your lucky,you will know them and they will know your name

    For all those who wander in the dark, dont fear the unknown before you,
    just look ,you will see them glowing in the night
  • Thank you for the post. I have no words to describe how it feels to want to leave this world. I live in pain everyday and when you're in pain you think people will automatically care and want to help. but no one is there....no one cares and in the end you are indeed all alone. I cannot fathom leaving my niece and nephew alone in this world but I know that 1 day I will lose this battle. The pills are slowly eating my body away and I'm only 33 yrs old. back pain for 13 years. Only my precious Mother has been there in all this pain & for all the surgeries. Just had lower lumbar fusion L4-L5 S1. It did not work. My partner has chosen a life in the bars and with others than me. Could I really be this bad? I pray everyday I don't wake up. That I home with God....no more pain...no more crying. I don't know how much longer I can do this. If God is listening.....I am ready. Please pray for me. That's all I can say.
  • Think of those you would leave behind (like your Mom and niece and nephew). Last year, my beautiful, bright, beloved 25 year old nephew took his own life. The family will never recover. We will go on and we will learn to enjoy life but we will never fill the hole left from his death and we will never get over not having realized that he was so miserably unhappy that he could not bare to be here any longer.

    I have to believe that there is help for you somewhere in the future. It may involve more pain and it may involve more surgery but somewhere you have a future with less pain and lots of love waiting for you (please do not give up on it). Please do not put even one person through the pain of loosing you this way. Stay on this forum, people will talk to you and people will support you. There is a future out there for you, don't miss out on it. Call some of the numbers in the messages above. Reach out to your family and ask for help.
    asichicas13 said:
    Thank you for the post. I have no words to describe how it feels to want to leave this world. I live in pain everyday and when you're in pain you think people will automatically care and want to help. but no one is there....no one cares and in the end you are indeed all alone. I cannot fathom leaving my niece and nephew alone in this world but I know that 1 day I will lose this battle. The pills are slowly eating my body away and I'm only 33 yrs old. back pain for 13 years. Only my precious Mother has been there in all this pain & for all the surgeries. Just had lower lumbar fusion L4-L5 S1. It did not work. My partner has chosen a life in the bars and with others than me. Could I really be this bad? I pray everyday I don't wake up. That I home with God....no more pain...no more crying. I don't know how much longer I can do this. If God is listening.....I am ready. Please pray for me. That's all I can say.
  • dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 9,868
    have been down that dark alley. There is no question that chronic pain takes its toll. So many outsiders think about the medications and treatments that chronic pain sufferers need to have all the time. So, as long as they do that they are ok.
    But I believe, unless you have lived it and walked the same streets, you cant really understand the emotional toll that chronic pain takes.
    It can rob you of so much, it can take away the things that you held on to before.
    But, please no one should ever need to deal with the emotional toll themselves.
    I know there are others out there that have been dealing with chronic pain the number of years I have. I've been dealing with it for well over 30 years now. Sure, I've been down, depressed, etc. I know that the physical aspects of my pain will always be there to some extent. My pain level baseline is different then others and that is true of all long time sufferers. But I know I always need to do whatever it takes to put that aside and continue.
    Please take a look at the link below my signature line
    for Suicide Help.
    I wish I could offer you some words of advice, but I am far from capable of helping in those areas.
    Please take care
    Ron DiLauro Spine-Health System Administrator
    I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences
    You can email me at: rdilauro@veritashealth.com
  • I will pray very hard for you! Please do not leave the agony of your passing behind you! Stay here, post, vent, rage, We have all seen, felt, heard it here. We live it.

    Read, talk, call, someone, anyone. There is an alternate to what you suggest be it however different from the life you had planned it is life! It can not be replaced.

    Please, follow Ron's links and do find another answer.

    I'll be praying for you.
  • Please think of others in your life before you do anything to end your life. I agree with LJ - life is too precious to take. I can honestly speak from experience from both sides of the suicidal issue. I have been there, I have had those thoughts. I have suffered from major depression for 13 years, but my doctors feel I went undiagnosed for many years prior to that. Depression, like chronic pain, eats away at the body. It is a fight everyday. And everyday I choose to fight it. I remind myself everyday that I am strong, and I am needed, wanted, and loved. When I feel I have nothing else to cling to -- I cling to that one thought for dear life.

    It is easy for me to imagine the void I would leave in other peoples' life. You see, I had a brother, who at 24 years old, killed himself. It is a long story as to why, and I am glad that we do know why, but it doesnt make it any easier. Although not felt, I saw the pain and the emotional toll it took on my mother to have to bury one of her children. That is just not supposed to happen in the natural order of things. I pray everyday that, as a parent, I will never have to experience that kind of pain. I would much rather deal with the physical pain I live with everyday than the emotional pain that goes with burying your own child. My brother left behind a beautiful 2 yr. old daughter to be raised by a man that didnt much care for her. He also left behind a twin, 5 other siblings, and a host of aunts, uncles, nieces, and nephews. Then of course there are the friends he left behind. Those that ached because they knew they could help if he had not isolated himself from them. And then I wonder about all the people who had not yet met my brother and the possible affect he would have had on those lives. A future that neither he nor I will ever know.

    We are not privledged to know what direction our lives will take but I truly believe that God will never give us more than we can handle. He knew what he was doing when He gave us family and friends. We are given these trials to strengthen us. I know that personally I am a much stronger person now than I was before my injury. I have also learned patience - something I have never had much of in the past. It has truly been a learning experience for me and putting the pain factor aside I am a better person for it. Of course, that is not saying I would want to go through it all over again. Although we may not know the "why's" or "how come's", we can rest assured that our trials are not going unnoticed!!!!!!!!!

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