Hi, im new to this forum. Im 33 and have had a discectomy with decompression in September this year (L5/S1). Im recovering well but I also have coccydenia which causes a lot of pain in my hips, groin and tummy. I had to withdraw from university as i cannot sit and concentrate on essays due to pain and I am unfit for work. I am due to see my surgeon on Friday and discuss my next operation choices.
Yesterday I received a letter to say my benefits will be ending and after many phone calls to look into other help it seems we are unable to claim anything else.
My boyfriend has said since I can no longer pay towards any bills I will have to earn my keep by doing more housework (not easy when your back is bad). He said if I don't I know where the door is! I was really shocked by this and when discussing why he was so mad it turns out he questions the pain im in as I can go and do a 6 mile walk without trouble. He forgets that everyday I feel pain and have learned to live with it over the year and can disguise it well. He also knows how desperate I am wanting to get back to studying and that I have already put in for another course for when I am well enough. Half of me wants to stick around as im sure we can get over this but the other half says why should I put up with feeling like a lodger and feel the pressure of 'earning' my keep when I could do further damage to my back.
Any advice on this is much appreciated in this tough time and my head is spinning.