Hi! I am having this surgery on Monday (4 days-2/9/15) and I am a little scared and nervous and not knowing what to expect afterwards. I am a single Mom to 2 young children (i also have 2 grown daughters out of the house,21&23) my youngest daughter is 8 and my son is 10, he is also special needs, he has Aspergers. My ex-husband will be coming to stay at my house the night before the surgery to care for the kids for me. I will be staying at my boyfriend's house to recover. My ex is pressuring me to let him know how long I will need him to stay and I don't kniw what to tell him, so I've left it open for now, saying I will have to wait to see how I feel. Am hoping to read other people's stories and to come here for some support and info after I have the surgery. I am 46 and have a herniated disc at L5 S1 for 10 years, but in 10/14 injured it worse and starting having severe priblems with my left side, buttocks, leg & foot. Muscle spasms back of my thigh, pain, numbness, half of my foot "dead", not being able to stand ling or walk far, back worse, sleeping worse, and limping.