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1 Year since the accident: feeling a little sad

swhatleysswhatley Posts: 1
edited 06/18/2015 - 7:15 AM in New Member Introductions
Hey everyone. Tomorrow will be my 1 year anniversary of my car accident.

I was 9 months pregnant when I was t-boned by a box truck. I was able to swerve to the right, avoiding a collision at my door. Thank God, he hit right behind my door and my little bundle was just fine.

I am so beyond thankful that I'm alive and that my little Forrest was healthy and strong after the accident.

From what I understand, the ligaments are much more compromised when one is pregnant. The ligaments that hold my spine together, from the top of my neck, down to my tailbone, have all been sprained, stretched, or torn. I have moderate to severe pain constantly. I've been working with an osteopath and we've been trying PRP injections. I'm sure they will make a difference.

But today I feel sad. And I've been sad a lot this week. I can't pick up my baby after the injections. Playing with him on the floor is too painful, so I end up playing a lot less. I don't even think I realized how much I change my activities in my daily life until yesterday. Last night, I took a Hydrocodone. I was just hurting too much. It's the 3rd time I've taken a pill since the accident.

I felt great. I was a little loopy, but my back felt fine. I was intimate with my husband and then I just started crying! (Im sure I freaked him out). But it was the first time I'd been intimate with husband and was side tracked with trying to control the pain or the stiffness. I felt so normal without the pain. And it really made me fear the medicine. That's how people become drug addicts.

I've never joined any of these forums before, but I guess I just need a lift. I feel sad. Like I'm missing a lot with my son. I'm missing out on intimacy with my husband. We bought a house 5 months ago, and I've had to limit my activities during the remodel. No matter how hard I try to live a normal life, my back just gives out on me. After a few boxes, it just stiffens up and I can't move.

I'm 26, 5'6 and 120 pounds. I'm very fit and I don't talk about my injuries, so I don't think any people know how much I hurt on a daily basis. And I'm not sure who to even tell. I don't even know where to look for support for the way I'm feeling.

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It would be very helpful if you could provide us with more details. So many times we read about members who have different tests and they all come back negative. The more clues and information you provide, the better chances in finding out what is wrong,

Here are some questions that you should answer:

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    - What medications are you currently using? (details, dosage, frequency, etc)
    - Has surgery been discussed as an option? (If so, what kind)
    - Is there any nerve pain/damage associated?
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  • SavageSavage United StatesPosts: 5,427
    edited 06/18/2015 - 12:14 PM
    Anniversaries can effect some of us more than others, even subconsciously. It's good that you seem aware of possible connection.

    Has your osteopath been treating you with injections since your car accident one year ago?
    Is he the one providing your pain med?
    Have you been referred to a pain management specialist?

    My primary tried to work with me about two years before referring me to pain management.
    That was the best thing that ever happened to me!

    He immediately started with a plan for my pain relief ....and other testing to find source or cause of spinal issues.
    Having a plan, in my opinion, is much better than just taking a pain pill when you just can not bear up any more.
    Having a plan has given me more quality of life.

    I also was treated for depression. It does not have to be a forever kind of thing. It can be very useful for any kind of transition. And becoming a different person dealing with pain, I think, qualifies.
    It was the next best thing that ever happened to me.

    You are not alone in your suffering.
    Please reach out to your doctor. Please ask for referrals to those with specialty concerns to help you more quickly in addressing those concerns.

    I'm glad you reached out to SH today....not glad you're hurting.....glad you can get it off your chest here.
    You can find information here to help you take care of yourself.
    And others here reach out with shared experiences.

    Keep us posted on how you're doing!
    Spine-Health Moderator
    Please read my medical history at: Medical History

  • Betty65BBetty65 FloridaPosts: 83
    your little one was ok! My heart just stopped for a second when I was reading your post until I saw that he was ok. Wow that must have been scary.

    I agree with Savage that anniversaries can be difficult. The accident plus your little one turning a year old. Just having a baby can be hard even without the added stress of pain. My kids are 14 and 21 now, but I remember those days vividly. I used to teach preschoolers too. You may have already thought of these but here's some ideas for "quiet" play:

    Color wonder paints (no mess)
    finger puppets
    building with blocks (you on the sofa, baby next to you on the floor)
    reading books

    Hang in there. Better days are ahead.
  • Your experience with your little one is familiar to me. My little guy is just a few months short of his first birthday. He is a bright and happy baby who has just learned to stand without holding on to something.

    I read to him a lot. He loves books. But I don't dare carry him or toss him around. It depresses me that I miss out on these experiences, but I get to "join in" when my wife plays rough with him and he screams and laughs.

    I know my meds are dulling some of my enjoyment of the moment, too, but the pain will put me in a worse place. I'm thankful to God for my great wife. In fact, our anniversary is today. I got her flowers yesterday, and I know going out to eat tonight will be a painful challenge, but I need to be patient and cross that bridge when I come to it.
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