My name is John and I'm a new member here.
I signed up for support. What really frustrates me is that many people don't understand my pain or don't believe I am still in pain. I was in an accident a few years ago. My back landed on a post during an accident and I have had chronic upper back pain ever since. I'm fortunate enough to be a professor, as this gives me considerable flexibility in terms of sitting, working, etc.
I very rarely mention my back pain to people. They bring it up one way or another or it just comes up. Sometimes they will ask "Are you feeling better?" only to react strangely if I say anything other than yes. Or like when my father asked about my jury duty, and I told him that I was sending in a medical excuse. He said "Oh, brother!" as if my excuse weren't valid.
It really hurts me. Especially when it comes from family or close friends.
I am lucky to have a very supportive wife. She see's how I suffer on a regular basis, how I get up frequently to stretch or crack my back, how I don't last much more than a couple hours even with these breaks, sitting down and working increases my pain until it gets to the point where the pain keeps me from concentrating...
I really don't get people's attitudes. It's not like I ask them for favors because of my back. I hired people when I needed to move, didn't get them to help. And, really, why would anyone fake something like this?!
Do you guys have similar experiences?
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It would be very helpful if you could provide us with more details. So many times we read about members who have different tests and they all come back negative. The more clues and information you provide, the better chances in finding out what is wrong,
Here are some questions that you should answer:
- When did this first start?
- Was it the result of an accident or trauma?
- What doctors have you seen? (Orthopedic, Neurosurgeon, Spine Specialist, etc)
- What Conservative treatments have you had? Which ones?
- What diagnostic tests have you had? And their results (MRI, CTScan, XRay, EMG, etc)
- What medications are you currently using? (details, dosage, frequency, etc)
- Has surgery been discussed as an option? (If so, what kind)
- Is there any nerve pain/damage associated?
- What is your doctor’s action plan for treating you?
Providing answers to questions like this will give the member community here a better understanding
of your situation and make it easier to respond.
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Please remember that no one at Spine-Health is a formally trained medical professional.
Everything that is posted here is based on personal experiences and perhaps additional research.
As such, no member is permitted to provide
- Analysis or interpretation of any diagnostic test (ie MRI, CTscan, Xray, etc)
- Medical advice of any kind
- Recommendations in terms of Medications, Treatments, Exercises, etc
What could be good for someone could spell disaster for another.
You should also consult your doctor to better understand your condition and the do’s and don’t’s.
It is very important that new members (or even seasoned members) provide others with details about their condition(s). It is virtually impossible to help another member when all the details we have areI’ve had this for years, it hurts, I cant move my shoulder – what could this be, what treatment should I get?
Diagnosing spinal problems can be very difficult. In many ways its like a game of clue. Especially, when the diagnostic tests come back negative – no trouble found! Then its up to the patient and the doctor to start digging deeper. The doctor is like a detective. They need clues to help them move along. So, you as the patient need to provide the doctor with all sorts of clues. That is like it is here. Without having information about a condition, its impossible for anyone here to try to help.Specific comments :Personal Opinion, not medical advice :
--- Ron DiLauro, Spine-Health System Moderator