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john.379jjohn.379 Posts: 1
edited 08/03/2015 - 2:44 AM in Upper Back Pain, Thoracic

My name is John and I'm a new member here.

I signed up for support. What really frustrates me is that many people don't understand my pain or don't believe I am still in pain. I was in an accident a few years ago. My back landed on a post during an accident and I have had chronic upper back pain ever since. I'm fortunate enough to be a professor, as this gives me considerable flexibility in terms of sitting, working, etc.

I very rarely mention my back pain to people. They bring it up one way or another or it just comes up. Sometimes they will ask "Are you feeling better?" only to react strangely if I say anything other than yes. Or like when my father asked about my jury duty, and I told him that I was sending in a medical excuse. He said "Oh, brother!" as if my excuse weren't valid.

It really hurts me. Especially when it comes from family or close friends.

I am lucky to have a very supportive wife. She see's how I suffer on a regular basis, how I get up frequently to stretch or crack my back, how I don't last much more than a couple hours even with these breaks, sitting down and working increases my pain until it gets to the point where the pain keeps me from concentrating...

I really don't get people's attitudes. It's not like I ask them for favors because of my back. I hired people when I needed to move, didn't get them to help. And, really, why would anyone fake something like this?!

Do you guys have similar experiences?


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  • SavageSavage United StatesPosts: 5,476
    edited 08/03/2015 - 11:16 PM
    Yes...I've experienced very similar experiences and after all these years of chronic pain, I still do.
    With time, I've learned..well, continue to learn...to try to ignore the hurtful statements.
    If they have not experienced the pain, they can not know.
    Honestly, if I didn't live it, I'm not sure I'd believe it!

    You are fortunate to have someone in your corner who does her best to understand.
    I don't know if you would benefit from this, but I did.
    On this site, use__ search__ upper right on page, to find, " letter to normals" and "the spoon theory".

    I never sent "letter to normals" to anyone, but it sure helped me to know it existed and maybe I would try to slip parts of it I to conversation when I felt it appropriate.

    "Spoon Theory" very visual explanation of what limitations often accompany spinal issues and chronic pain.
    That I have explained to others, and for a time, it seems to help others in my life to understand.

    You are right, as I share the experience, where I don't bring up my issues, but others do.
    "Oh..you're walking much better. You must be improving!"
    "Really! You can't make it to the party, yet again! You looked so good yesterday!"

    I think ....I'm adjusting to my chronic pain lifestyle, and they think ....I'm better!
    I think ....I have a positive attitude, they think ....my meds are for getting high since I appear content and dare say, happy.

    We need to have the confidence in ourselves and our doctors and continue to work for what is best for our individual issues.
    Communication with loved ones can often be difficult, but communication of the unknown to one of the parties, is a speak my peace and let it rest....for me.
    Spine-Health Moderator
    Please read my medical history at: Medical History

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