Son in law is 72 hours post from a posterior cervical lamnioplasty, he still has the drain that will be removed tomorrow, the drain has accumulated quite a bit of fluid, that needs to be cleaned out several times a day, he is in a soft collar, he was in hospital less then 24 hours. My concern he is not following any post op instructions. He is not resting, while I know be bed ridden is not good either, he dies need to get up and get moving, he is totally over doing it. He is totally disregarding his discharge instructions. My main concern is that he is not following lifting limitations he is picking up his 3 year old, and 6 month old in car seat which is well above the limit on his discharge instructions, he has also sat at computer playing video games for several hours, and today he is going on 100 mike trip to a family thing. He gets angry when his wife tries to tell him he needs to follow instructions, so she is afraid to put foot down but at same time she thinks he is amazing that nothing keeps him down. My concern is he is going to do more damage, set back his recovery, he was given these instructions for a reason, am I over. reacting.