Where to begin? Any suggestions with what to do? My wife is so unhappy and lonely because she does not have her husband (me). She has been unsatisfied and unhappy for a couple years ever since I had my spinal fusion. My fusion created problems and I have had to have a 2nd surgery 1 year later at the level above and now they are talking about a 3rd surgery at the next level because I am still in an immense amount of pain every day all day. She does not understand and is constantly upset with me because I forget things or I didn't do what she asked me to do. I am living in hell. We have a 1 year old and I try my best to take care of her but can only do so much, it hurts to bend over and I can't lift her, we try to arrange things the best we can so that I take care of the baby but my wife does most of it. I try to do what I can I cook and make sure she has her lunch for work everyday and I take care of the babies formula. But yesterday she came home I had dinner ready for everyone and coffee made, she brought the baby to her highchair and I said hi to everyone and went to get my medicine. I got yelled at because I didn't give my wife 15 min to put the baby down and get out of her work cloths. So it led to a big fight. She told me she wishes she never met me and that she thinks about divorce often. So I left for a about an hour. We do love each other so much but we just don't see where the other person is coming from. She is upset because we are not intimate anymore and thinks it's because of her weight gain from the pregnancy or that I have a girlfriend...I am not intimate because I am in PAIN 24/7, that's all I keep telling her...Chronic pain can put a large amount of strain on any relationship. Manytimes, its harder for the person not in pain. There really isn't any simple answer. But one of the best options always is to have open communications. Both parties having the chance to express their fears, their hopes and more
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